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Just an update BFN 12dp5dt

Feeling devastated. We've lost 3 embryos since April. This was our last. Me and my OH feel crushed. What is wrong with me ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

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I'm really sorry to hear this! I wish no one would ever have to go through this!!! Big hugs... ๐Ÿ˜ž

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So sorry to hear this, look after yourselfs, BFN are so cruel.

Sending u hugs x

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I'm so so sorry. X

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So sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself x

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I'm so sorry ๐Ÿ™ My heart is breaking for you, it's so unfair xxx

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I am so sorry to read you post. BFNs are horrid and we naturally try to blame ourselves. Life can be very cruel.

Take some time out for yourselves. You need time to grieve and decide next steps.

I started to go out and do things I would not have been able to do if I was expecting. I know this is not a consolation and does not help with the loss but just gave me space and freedom and to be ME.

xxx

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Iโ€™m so sorry babe.... I hope they can give you some answers at your review. Be kind to yourselves xxxxx

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Ah so sorry. Hugs! Take so time out and go easy on yourself. None of this is your fault xxxx

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So sorry, BFN's are just awful. Look after yourself especially today xx

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Thank you everyone. I'm just fed up of being broken once again. Having to pick myself back up and carry on as normal :( it's so frustrating 3 really good embryos. My lining again was perfect. I've carried a child before, there's nothing physically wrong ? I'm just so confused to why it hasn't worked again ๐Ÿ˜ฐ I just know deep down in my stomach it might never work for us xxxx

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What a horrible thing to have to go through, life can be so cruel sometimes. Take the time to look after yourself, sending big hugs xx

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I feel the same - I had 2 day3 embryos transferred last cycle and 1 day 5 this cycle and none have taken.. I'm starting to think I need to pay for immunology testing just to check my body's not attacking the embryos and for peace of mind before I attempt the 2 Embryos I have left (frozen) as don't want to just waste them. I am so very sorry it is so tough and heartbreaking this process I feel like a little part of us is breaking every time we fail. But I will not let this get the better of us - we will win one day xxx take time to pamper yourself as be looked after

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I'm going to look into this also xxxxxx

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Iโ€™m so so sorry to have seen this post this morning! Please donโ€™t blame yourself itโ€™s just another one of those cruel things life throws at us, it will happen for you I am sure. Have lots of cuddles with your DH and look after yourself. Xx

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Very sorry to hear this. Iโ€™m sure it never gets any easier xx

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Oh I'm so sorry to read this! Thinking of you both, sending hugs!xx

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So so sorry for your sad news today. Look after each other xxx

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Life is so unfair at times, it's hard picking yourself back up again, you will though in time xxx

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I'm so very sorry. Life is so cruel. Thinking of you xx

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Awww.. love really very sorry to know that.. hope you ll get pregnant naturally.. big hugs๐Ÿค—

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So sorry to hear this. We're dealing with our second failed fresh cycle with no frozen embryos as back up.

I wish they had the answers as I could t have done anything any differently and all tests for me came back normal (my OH has low sperm count/mobility/)

How on earth are we supposed to put ourselves back together and feel positive when we can't see how things can be any different?!

Sending lots of love and prayers that we'll have our chance before we're completely bankrupted! X โค๏ธ X

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So sorry hunny, this rollercoaster can be so cruel ,thinking of you both, hug tight at each other xxโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’‹

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So sorry to hear this - it never gets any easier hearing about a BFN. Take care of yourself and OH x

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Aww hunnie Iโ€™m so sorry that was me Friday/ Saturday they are so horrible give yourself some time, take it easy. This journey can be so unfair xx

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So sorry hun. I'm devastated for you, tearing up. I bet it never gets any easier. Big cwtches xxxx

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I am so so sad to read this. I am thinking of you, I know how devastated you will be. Take care. Xx

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So sorry to read this. Am thinking of you xx

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So sorry to read this!! I've just had my first bfn & it's heartbreaking!! Look after yourself!! ๐Ÿ’” xx

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I am so so sorry. BFN are never easy. Hope you can feel better soon

xxx

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Oh I'm so sorry to read this. It is absolutely heartbreaking. Sending you a big hug. If you want to talk about feelings after the loss of the last embryo then do message me. We lost our last one in July. xxx

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So sorry for ur sad news take care of yourself xx

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So sorry to read this. It's such a cruel journey. I hope you manage to see some light at the end of the tunnel and retain some hope once you've taken some time out to grieve xx

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So sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ˜ž itโ€™s the worse feeling ever. My private clinic checked my TSH levels (thyroid stimulating hormone) this time to make sure it was in the right level. Apparently if your thyroid is a bit sluggish it can affect implantation.

Be kind to yourself hun, big hugs xxx

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I am so sorry. I know its devastating. However please do not blame yourself. We have no control over the result. All we can do is try and give our best shot the rest is out of our hands.

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