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[susanlucy]

Hi I have had 2 failed ivf and so upset and depressed crying and not myself

I work with children and have babies and get upset when we get young babies that I get upset about.

I am seeing a counsellor but can't get over this

Is there anyone else going through this or can anyone tell me if there is a support group

[Jaky76]

Oh you poor love, I understand how you feel and loads of other ladies will on here, you are not alone.I don't work with children but have loads of friends with kids and God children and at times have to distance myself. I had a failed cycle, miscarriage and currently on my 3rd cycle and my emotions are always up and down, it is such a massive thing the IVF process, I think the more support you can get the better. I attend a fertility support group at Harley street, opposite LWC, it's the last Monday of each month and for NHS or private and anyone can attend, if you look under the London woman's centre and Anya sizer fertility support dates and address there...I have attended on and off for over a year and has so helped me...are you aiming to try again? Sending big hugs and wishes...here for you xxx

[yllek1982]

I'm so sorry that you are finding it tough at the moment. I can completely relate as I too work with children from new borns up to young adults as I run a little performing arts school which has mum and baby groups, baby ballet etc etc. I enjoy the job but it is getting more and more difficult. My husband finds it very tough when he sees a picture of me holding a little one from class that one of the mums has posted on my business page. Since starting IVF (we've had 2 fail as well, 1 fresh, 1 frozen cycle) I've found myself a lot more emotional which I don't know if this is due to the medication I've been pumped with or my actual emotions- anything can set me off! I've not seen the counsellor as of yet so I may well do that. I think my clinic also has a support group so it may well be handy for you to have a look to see if yours offers that too. Sending lots of hugs xxxx

[Georgina78]

Hi susanlucy

I just wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug, I know how you feel in a way as we've also just failed a cycle (our first) less than a week ago. I was working in child protection with children from unborn-18 yrs but when redundancies were being made last year I took it voluntarily as I was already struggling with the nature of the job just because we knew IVF was on the cards. I knew I wouldn't have been able to cope once it started, particularly working with people who do not deserve those beautiful children they have been blessed with 😕

I know how hard it is to be surrounded by children on a daily basis (we were ttc for 4 years whilst I was in that job) I know it won't be an easy time for such a big change but could you move into a different role? It will be hard but it may be better for your mental health in the long term.

I've since struggled with not having work as a distraction during this period so need to get myself back into work, I'm just not sure where to start myself 😕

Lots of luck to you xxx

[anna0908]

I'm in a similar place - 2 failed attempts and I work with pregnant women and babies. It is so hard. I am on sick leave following 2nd bfn because of this. Want to get back to work in a couple of weeks but not looking forward to it. Trying to get myself strong and find a way to push through it. I know if this journey ends without me getting pregnant, I will need to change jobs, but just trying to find strategies to keep myself going at the moment. Are you able to take some time off? I just needed the space to cry it out xxx

[burSu]

Hi susanlucy

Not long time ago I was turned down for IVF because it can relapse my cancer. I was going to apply for IVF in Ukraine with donor eggs. But now my only option is surrogacy. It really upset and scared me at first but now i feel positive about it. Need to sort some paperwork and will plan my first attempt.

I think you should never give up. Wish you all the best Stay strong sweet xx

[72cloud9]

Hi,

Just experienced my 1st failed IVF but been told now that donor only possibility due to my age and I have doubts about this but also having miscarried b4 doubt my ability to carry a baby to term any way. My 2 closest friends out of our little group of 3 both had babies last year-it is v hard spending time with them plus I start to feel my infertility issues are always 4gotten when we chat & it's all about their babies! It's so hard! many a time I want to scream it's not fair! Y me? But we have to try & still push on 4ward & hope. I am hanging on 2 hope! Not a great deal we can say to make u feel better about your situation except u r not alone.we r feeling this with u x