Feeling really awful....

[Spongy]

Hi everyone, I'm having such a terrible night. We are waiting for our IVF initial coordination appt but sometimes the waiting just really gets to me.

I have a friends sons christening tomorrow and loads of my friends will be there with their babies. I just feel so sad sometimes. I hate feeling like this but it's just so hard watching them all with the one thing I want so much.

Sorry for the moan... I just needed to say it somewhere!!

Thanks for listening!

Vicky.

[pm27]

It is hard seeing others with their babies when it's so difficult for us to get pregnant or stay pregnant. Have you got someone there who knows your situation? Perhaps agree a signal or code word to indicate you need to escape to the loo or go for fresh air if needed.

You may enjoy some aspects of the day, it's ok to feel happy so for others and sad for yourself.

[Spongy in reply to pm27]

Thank you so much for your reply. I really do feel happy for my friends but as you said, sad for myself.

I'm sure it will be ok, it's just hard as my husband can't come as he is on nights.

Thanks for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it. Hope everything is ok for you?

Xx

[pm27 in reply to Spongy]

Such a shame your hubby can't go.

It sounds like you've got your plan to leave after the service if it feels too much.

Be kind to yourself.

[Hidden]

Just wanted to say I'm exactly the same position so feel your pain.

Big hugs x

[Spongy in reply to Hidden]

It's awful isn't it?! Like the most painful thing but completely unavoidable xx

[Hidden in reply to Spongy]

It is awful but hopefully will be worth all the heart ache and the pain by the end of it all. And I'm sure we will all come out of this stronger people xx

[Hopeful1982]

Hello Vicky,

All the waiting is incredibly difficult and frustrating. It can feel like you're stuck in complete limbo while all your friends are moving forward and having babies!

I would personally find the christening you have tomorrow difficult too. But you will get through it. Just choose who you spend time with on the day carefully. Personally I would try to spend time with those friends who don't yet have children.

If it's too difficult remember you don't have to stay for long. Just say you have to leave and slip away if it all gets too much.

Take care x

[Spongy in reply to Hopeful1982]

Thanks so much for your reply. It's nice to know im not the only one who feels this way. I wouldn't be so anxious if my hubby could come but he's on nights and can't get out of them.

I think I might escape after the church ceremony and hope they don't think I'm being rude.

Hope you get your happy ending really soon xx

[Daisy-Mae]

Hi Spongy, just letting you know I'm thinking of you today and hoping you are managing ok. Don't ever feel like you are alone with your feelings and upset, we all know how you are feeling and are here to support you xxx

[Spongy in reply to Daisy-Mae]

Thank you so much for the lovely supportive messages. It really helps so much. Iv just got back and survived without any tears so all in all a good day really. its just nice knowing I'm not the only one who feels like this. I don't like feeling upset when I should be happy for friends. I am happy for them, I am just so sad for me and my hubby.

Time to have a nice relaxing afternoon now before the stressful week starts again!

Not long til I can phone and book my coordination appt now so just have to stay strong.

Good luck to everyone and thank you so much for getting me through today xxx

[pm27 in reply to Spongy]

So glad to hear it went OK today.

Hope you enjoy your relaxing afternoon, it's so nice to have some sunshine.