I am currently working as a Nanny but due to me starting IVF on the 31.12. my boss will put her child into a nursery part time from mid January. This means that instead of 45 hrs I will be working 25 hrs per week. Of course this means less money.
My partner understands that I will need a lot of time off to go to my appointments but he doesn't want me to stay in my current job.
He basically wants me to search for a better paid job with more hours straight away. On Friday he sent me a link to S1 jobs for a nursery officer/manager role which pays really well. Thing is I don't want to work in a leading nursery role as I don't have the experience, I am a Nanny and have 12 years experience there and I don't want to go job-hunting right now while I am about to start my IVF.
I freaked out and got soo stressed out that I ended up with a 2 day migraine. My periods were so light as well it was weird. I have an ear infection as well right now and those got worse, too.
I decided that I put up a post online on a child care website to look for extra hrs just so that he will sh*t up but I am very stressed right now and realized that for the next 6-8 weeks the IVF is the most important thing to me.
I would totally agree with my DP if I was unemployed but I have a job!! I have always worked 45-60 hrs as a Nanny per week and this is the first time in my life that I have to cut down my hrs to concentrate on IVF treatment and it is just for 6-8 weeks in my life.
He says he doesn't want me to focus so much on the IVF as it might not work Great but if I am totally stressed out then it definitely won't work and all that will happen is me having panic attacks. I love children to bits but I might need a break from child care if the IVF doesn't work as its too painful already to see cute little babies every day. So I was actually thinking to switch to a housekeeping job or something like that for a few months while I sort my nerves out...
Has anyone any idea how to deal with this and how to explain to a partner that I just need a little break right now to deal with all this? He just acts like its not happening....aaaaagghhhh help!
Thank you all for reading this xx