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Confused and stressed


I'm feeling pretty hopeless at the moment. My partner and I currently rent in Kingston in a tiny one bed flat. During the two week wait, tension was rising and we ended up having a huge argument due to all the stress of ttc. Our neighbour heard us shouting (20 minutes maximum) and reported us so that we are now being evicted!

All the stress has added up and I just can't imagine getting pregnant now with all the new worry of finding a new apartment. I have had my first consultation and am undergoing investigations at fertility hospital in Kingston. I moved my GP from Hertfordshire when arriving n Kingston. I had no idea back then, that Hertfordshire offers 3 cycles of IVF and Kingston only 1!!! I can't switch back to Hertfordshire now as the residency criteria states you must have been registered with a GP for 12 months before referral! Damm!

As we are now having to move anyway, we are considering locations that will offer the best fertility treatment and are therefore thinking of moving to Surrey as this at least offers 2 rounds of IVF if necessary and IUI. Am I ridiculous to base our property search largely on CCG?

I am so devastated that I have screwed everything up by losing my temper with my partner and having that silly argument that has cost us our flat. Trying to turn it into a positive by moving to a borough with more IVF chances now is making me question my sanity but I equally can't help but feel angry I moved from Hertfordshire where there were 3 IVF rounds offered! Feeling very regretful and lost now.

has anyone else had arguments with other halves as a result of the stress?

has anyone else considered he postcode lottery when moving properties?

Any help truly appreciated x

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Hi lou-33. So sorry to read your story. Me and my partner have been arguing a lot due to the stress, hes been trying to stay strong for me but i want him to show some emotion. A family is everything we both want and i just know that we will come out of this stronger. Arguments are bound to happen because of the stress but you cant dwell too much on them. I live in Newcastle and have been offered 3 attempts on the NHS so feel very lucky. Hope everything works out for you and your partner xxxxx

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Hey! So sorry to hear what a terrible time you're having. My partner & I have argued quite a bit (for the same reasons as jillmooney!) & we are only at the Chlomid stage!!

I live in Chelmsford & they offer 3 rounds. It is however quite an expensive place to rent so I def think you should take into account the postcode lottery but also the cost of living in a particular area as I always think you need to save as much money as possible either for poss private treatment or to bring upyour kids when you have them.

Good luck with it all. Xx


I know you may be happy to move now anyway, but there are quite strict rules about evicting tenants - see here if you want to know more - gov.uk/private-renting-evic...


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