Still gotta try and have fun

[LunaLovegood11]

So I came home from work last night and said to my partner that we should do something fun together this weekend.

He asked what - I said how about popping to London for the evening? He said yes, how about seeing a show - he suggested Dolly Parton’s 9to5 🙈

We’ve been so consumed this whole year with fertility - NHS tests, disappointment, all the fun that comes with IVF - stress, restarted cycle, injections, feeling low from hormones, scans, egg collection, pessaries, the 2WW, and the bonus of paying around £15k for it all!

His dad passed away a couple of weeks ago and we have the funeral on Monday. I’ve been terrible as my mind has totally been on the IVF, and he’s coped so well with everything.

Yes we should probably be saving money to pay off the meds that are on the credit card and replenish the savings, but maybe today we go back to enjoying each other as we did from the start of us.

So for today I’m choosing my focus to be on Us as we are right now - together - going through a heap of 💩 - but together xxx

[Itsalongjourney26]

To me spending a little money, and more importantly time, is a huge investment so good in you both. It's so easy to lose sight of everything. Thinking of you both at such a difficult time x

[LunaLovegood11 in reply to Itsalongjourney26]

Thanks lovely! Xx

[Shirazlover2013]

Sounds so wonderful!! Did you guys enjoy yourselves? I can’t wait to be free to do things like that again. I miss the carefree people we used to be. Xx

[LunaLovegood11 in reply to Shirazlover2013]

We’re off this afternoon! You will be you again, just stronger xxx

[Shirazlover2013 in reply to LunaLovegood11]

I’ve heard good things about the show you’re seeing, should be a blast x

[LunaLovegood11 in reply to Shirazlover2013]

Thanks so much xxx

[Lorita1984]

I totally agree with you. I have already told my husband that if our Frozen embryo transfer fails we should go on holiday and enjoy ourselves a bit. Treatment overtook our lifes for the past 3 years. Ithink and talk about it day and night. Im at 7 days past frozen embryo transfer today, caved in and tested at 5 days past transfer and got Bfn. Will wait and hope but feel very discouraged

[LunaLovegood11 in reply to Lorita1984]

Oh darling, still test on the day as you never know... 🤞🏻

Whatever happens definitely enjoy a break being you xx

[Love_the_mountains]

Love this! Definitely the right thing to do and so so important. I have realised this more than ever the last week. It has been a massive wake up call!

I'm guilty of getting so consumed in my own relentless misery that I neglected my OH to point where it crossed his mind to leave me. I forgot about everything else good we had in our life. It has made me realise that if we can't have a child together then it will be incredibly sad, but to lose my OH will be even more devastating after everything good we have and built up together prior to this difficult journey.

Enjoy your trip to London! We have Center Parcs next weekend and a couple of gigs booked so we look forward to that xxx

[LunaLovegood11 in reply to Love_the_mountains]

Ooh sounds great!!! Definitely the OH are so important... There are lots of women out there who would just love to have a partner to be with 💕

[AliceMoonpie in reply to Love_the_mountains]

It's true, it's so easy to overlook all the good things in your life and focus on the bad things. Thanks for posting this to keep the good things in mind.

[Solly-44]

I love this!

I feel like we’re completely lacking any spontaneity in our relationship, or really any life outside of ivf. You know the drill, always waiting, or feeling rough, or emotional, and repeat.

I’m going to make a real effort to do something like this next week. Hope you have loads of fun! Xx

[LunaLovegood11]

Thank you!!! Yes even a wonderful meal out, doing some new activity together, I think it can work wonders xx

[Loopy9]

It’s important to keep moments of being a couple too 🙂

[Livinginhope2019]

Have a lovely time, it’s so important to remember who we were before all the IVF, it will do you both the world of good xxx

[Keepingfaith85]

Sounds like a fab idea. You should check out a site called showfilmfirst you can get last minute tickets and only pay the booking fee so I saw a theatre show a few days ago for £3 😊 It's so important to make time for fun and each other xx

[Suzy86]

I realised we had made no good memories this year at all as it had been so consumed with IVF and FETs. It has just been the hardest year. We had always said we wanted to go to Disneyworld when we had children, facing that that may not happen we went anyway just the 2 of us and had an absolute blast. It has given me the strength to go into this next round of treatment. It’s so important to take time out and refocus I think and try to remember to continue to make memories through all this 💩. I hope you enjoy your evening xxx

[Core]

Sounds like a great plan, I think doing fun things together is such an important part of this process to help keep the sanity!xx

[Faith103]

Good on you. This is what me and my fella are doing this weekend after a horrible week last week with a negative test and period coming. Enjoy 😉 we are having a nice weekend and it’s our bday next weekend so we are off on holiday for 2 days. Xxxx

[LunaLovegood11]

Hope you all have some amazing times and make some brilliant memories 💕

[Faith103 in reply to LunaLovegood11]

You too and congratulations 🥳 xxxx