Terrified of Miscarriage

[Dinobaby05]

Hello! I’m 5 weeks 3 days pregnant and I can’t stop worrying about miscarrying. I have PCOS and I read that I have a 30-50% chance compared to 10-20% and it’s all I’m thinking about. I’m also suffering from cramps and I had some spotting this morning. Anyone else feel like this? How do you stop yourself from going crazy?

[Eggfreezer2015]

I think many of us on here, given our journeys, fear this. It’s challenging but what helped me get through it is repeating mantras like ‘All is well, unless proven otherwise. I’m doing my best and that’s all I can do’. Also remembering what my nurse told me and that unless you are in excruciating pain and there is fresh blood, you must assume all is going well. Cramping and spotting are normal. I know it’s hard but challenge your thoughts with self-talk to this effect. Hope that helps x

[Frankie_28]

Hello. I'm one day ahead of you and have the same worries, without PCOS. Other members have really helped me and said that they've experienced similar and that everything was fine. They've also advised that if I'm really worried about pain or bleeding, to contact the EPU. I know this isn't much help but others just commenting that they had experienced similar reassured me. X

[Eloquentia]

Hi! I have PCOS too and I've never come across such stark statistics, nor has my clinic mentioned such an increase in risk. Try not to worry too much and take the journey one day at a time. Stay away from Google as much as you can (easier said than done, I know!). I had a large bleed at 5w but it turned out to be a subchorionic haematoma. My baby girl is sleeping next to me now. Best wishes for an easy pregnancy!

[Biscuitaddict]

I’m also 5 weeks and I just am so anxious in the lead up to the 6 week scan. It’s so hard to just enjoy the pregnancy, after dealing with infertility. Every time I go to the toilet I am worried I will see blood. I feel like a crazy person! I do keep telling myself all is good though. It’s an anxious wait for sure though x

[JA-fnuk Partner]

This can and is a very stressful time Make sure have people around you for support If any concerns / questions remember you can always ask your midwife for advice Also take a look at our website fertlitynetworkuk.org - Access Support - UK-Wide groups for support "Pregnancy & Beyond Groups " and follow prompts to register

Take care

Janet-Partner