4 year old soiling daily, what can I do?

[Caro13]

Hi. My son has just turned 4 and has been potty training for a year now. He took a while to get the hang of wees but is ok with them now. He still won't use the toilet or potty for poos and has daily accidents in his pants. When at home he'll often go off and hide, then come out having had an accident. He flat out refuses to sit on a potty or toilet and try to poo. Once or twice I've managed to get him to use the toilet for a poo by just repeatedly putting him back on but it's taken 30minutes plus and ended with him getting very upset.

His preschool have asked if they can put him in a nappy. I've said no as he starts school in September and if we put him back in nappies now I don't see how he'll be ready for school start.

Does anyone know anything I could try? We've already tried poo goes home to pooland and he's had movicol for constipation previously.

[Yaleamanda]

Sounds like he is impacted and you need to disimpact him. I would ask encourage regular toilet sits after every meal.

[Bezzywezzy]

Hi, this is exactly the issue I’m having with my nearly 5 year old boy. The upset it causes if I do sit him on the toilet has been awful. I can just about manage it now, with the bribery of having his ‘toilet toys’ up there. But even though he’ll sit on the toilet now, he’s 💯 holding his stools still! We could sit on the toilet for 20Mins, and nothing, soon as he trots off out the bathroom, that’s it, it’ll come! I’m at my

Wits end. Have you had any progress?