Hello I'm new here and feeling defeated by our toileting problems.
My nearly 6yo is fully wetting herself everyday. When I pick her up from school she is soaked through. She says she doesn't need the toilet yet I can see her jiggling about and if I carry her to the toilet and put her on it she will often wee immediately.
She won't tell the teachers at school if she has wet herself, she is allowed to go to the toilet whenever she wants but doesn't go.
It's now also happening at home and when we're out and about.
I prompt her a lot. Her default response is that she doesn't need the toilet. I've asked her to stop and think about her bladder before answering me and that doesn't help. I ask her to escort me to the toilet and offer her to go before me and after me. But she's adamant she doesn't need to go.
I praise her for trying, and I have explained that it makes me so happy to know that the wee has gone in the toilet! I try not to act negatively when she wets herself, we change her clothes as quickly as we can and I explain that this is to prevent infection and rash and soreness.
I don't know what to do from here. Do I speak to her teacher again? We don't seem to be getting anywhere with this. Do I speak to the school nurse? Our GP?
She's such a wonderful and clever kid, I wish I knew how to help her with this