My daughter starts Reception next week.
Today she and I had a meeting with her new teacher. She was filling in a form she fills in with all parents.
She got to the section on toiletting.....
My daughter has been wet during the day ( and night) daily always. We have been trying to get help for two years.
The teacher asks "have you tried reward charts?"
hmmm let me think.....
She's had loads of GP appointments, paediatrician appointments, continence nurse appointments, four days of input/output charts involving weighing pants and measuring wee (where she had 15-17 wet accidents per day because we had to leave her and not intervene for four days), a wobl watch, measured amounts of water to drink, movicol for a while, loads of tests for UTIs that all came back negative. I've been on a full day ERIC course with her preschool key person, I've made her a book, I've tried every incentive ever, she drinks only water, Have we tried reward charts?! What does she think?!
We have purchased some incontinence knickers at £16 a pair and whilst she saw her teacher today she wet and even though she was sat down at the time thankfully her uniform which she wanted to wear to show her teacher, stayed dry, so the posh pants at least worked well. I think she will just take a few of them each day and the staff will have to take her hourly and check the pants each time.
I guess maybe before I had an almost 5 year old who wets all the time I might have judged people whose kids couldn't get dry by school age and wondered if they'd tried very hard. But I have tried everything to get this child dry. Really.
And you should see the creative reward charts I've made!
Yes. I've tried reward charts.
Is it wrong that I had a chuckle at your post?!!! What I mean is I can soooooo relate to what you are saying. My 8 year has been through all the things you mentioned and those not in the know make a suggestion like that and you have actually just got to laugh!
What I've learnt over the last 4 years is that all of these ideas are great, like charts and Wobl watches etc but more than likely with most kids the novelty wears off after a while!
My son has been through the psychology team who talked about charts and I just chuckled....however we came up with an alternative, mainly to take the pressure off my son from his accidents. He has extreme urgency and the message doesn't seem to get through that he needs to go and it comes flying out. The idea was a weekly chart with smiley faces that could be coloured in each time he got changed, as the accidents happen no matter what but now, to keep his dignity we want him to get changed. Draw up a huge spider chart with all the rewards uour daughter may like to work towards, big or small, activity or toy; trip to cinema, bouncy ball, pack of collectible cards, cereal of their choice....varied rewards that they enjoy doing or perhaps receiving. Each reward should be marked up so they have to get 1 smiley face for sat a bouncy ball or collect 5 for a trip to the cinema. They decide at the start of the week what they're working towards so rewards can be short term as I think a week is a long time in the world of a 5 year old!
I am sure you are sick of reward charts but I found this one really fun for my son to do as it was all his decision and doing!!