Hi, This is my first time on here and I'm utterly desperate -
My 3 and 1/2 son has been having problems with his poos for the past 2 years. About 18 months ago, he started getting very anxious when he needed to poo in his nappy and would try to withhold it, eventually getting extremely upset when it came out. I think this was preceeded by a few episodes of constipation when it hurt him to poo. We started potty training him last year and he is mostly dry (unless he's too busy playing or is dealing with a health challenge of some sort). With poos, it took a while and a few battles and during the summer he conquered pooing in the toilet. Unfortunately, we had a significant emotional trauma in the family and since then (September) he has returned to not wanting to poo in the toilet, withholding poo and soiling. Its gotten so bad that I've had to put him back into pull-ups as I'm a working mum with a younger daughter and was struggling to wash up to 15 pairs of pants a day at worse.
Prior to the summer, we saw the GP who prescribed movicol which probably helped, however, this time round, despite giving him movicol, making sure his diet and water intake are good, exercise, abdominal massage, positive re-inforcement, and speaking to his preschool, I feel at a loss of where to go next. Since the new year and returning to preschool, my son has been having mixed success at pooing whilst at preschool, however refuses to do so at home. We are trying to replicate the environment from preschool at home to help, but I feel the problem is psychological as I cannot see any physical reason for him not to be able to go - he will go in his pull up when he can no longer hold it in, and it is always soft and well formed, but he will not let himself go! This is our problem if this makes any sense - Does anyone have any advice to help? What are we doing wrong?