I have been contemplating having children for a while now as my endo is getting very bad very quick (spread from womb to bowel in 2 months) The chances of me getting pregnant are getting low and the older I get, the less chance I'll have.
I am only just 17 (my birthday was 9th Feb) and I know I have my whole life ahead of me but I have wanted children since I was a little girl and I couldn't live without having the experience at least once.
Most of my family are ok with me starting now but I don't know if I'm ready just yet, perhaps in a year or something I'll feel more prepared. I don't have a job, my fiance doesn't have a job, we live with my parents and we have no income. My parents struggle as it is with funds but would having a child make everything more stressful and hard to deal with.
I REALLY want children and I would love to have them now, I really can't wait. But I don't have money, I don't have my own place, my room is tiny and has barely enough room for us let alone a possible child too.
I am in a catch 22 situation, I'm personally ready for a child but not financially ready. I want my child to have a good quality of life but then again, if I haven't got long to have a baby then should I even bother worrying about the financial side of it??
I'm just so confused and emotional, I don't know what to do for the best.
If anyone has any advice or could just talk to me then I would be more than happy. Personal experiences are also good to me. I don't want anyone saying they had treatment and it got better or that they had endo really bad but now have 3 kids or whatever because that's not what I'm saying or asking. I just want someone to say answer my question and perhaps build me up a bit. I've tried talking to family but they don't understand like you ladies do.
Thanks in advance to any help and sorry for the long post.