Emotional struggles

[nikogirl18]

this is a tricky one and one I feel my partner doesn’t understand - I’m hoping someone can relate…

I found out one of my best friends is pregnant at the weekend and I am over the moon for her - myself, bestie and other friends had gone out for lunch and they were all discussing babies and that the track natural cycles and how exciting it all was. The conversation was also talking about how they didn’t want to ‘try’ as such and just let it happen naturally.

I feel selfish for saying but I felt so left out of the conversation because of my endometriosis and it’s really hit me today that our journey won’t be like that - I’m really quite upset. I have the coil fitted to help control my endo (and I reallly do need it) so we will never be able to just ‘see what happens’ it would need to be a concious decision to remove the coil and try like hell to make it happen.

im just so scared that trying for a baby and being pregnant will not be an enjoyable experience like it is for my friends. I just feel like endo has taken that away from me.

does anyone else feel like this?

[16yearsofpainsofar]

If your friend has regular periods then I suspect she knew when she was ovulating and timed sex for that small fertile window. If you haven't been ttc then you won't know how hard the journey will be. Have you spoken to a fertility doctor and had tests done?

I didn't ovulate regularly so I didn't have a period every month. I now have a healthy baby and didn't need fertility treatment. Young age and low weight probably helped me. However, there are some young women who don't seem to have any medical issues and yet they still struggle to conceive naturally. As I said before, it's worth getting some tests done. Best of luck x

[EndoCoeliac_Woman]

It is sad to read what you are going through and also relieving because it means I'm not the only one. My boyfriend doesn't understand me being worried about having a child. I'm off the pill since 5 months. And nothing happened yet because I've no period. Moreover, I'm starting having pelvic pain most of the month again, which interfere with my daily functioning. I cannot afford just trying indefinitely because at a certain point it will be me living my life or me living to create a life. I know other women with endo have children, but I'm curious how they deal with the pain while trying. I'm so fed up they just put us under pill or coil and then say: stop it and start trying. Easy for them to say...All this to say that I 100% relate. I don't have any advice. So let us know if you find a solution 🥲

[Endofitall]

Here to say you are not alone.

Endo is a strange disease though and some conceive with no significant issues. I really hope you’re in that camp.

Unfortunately I had your fears and they did come to reality for me as it’s 5 years on and still no child but endo got worse and worse, made life so miserable. I’ve just had excision surgery before Xmas to help chances but also importantly hopefully make it more bearable to TTC. I’m now at side of things that people are like oh you know it will happen when you least expect etc etc like I can just stay off treatment for years. Sadly there will have to be a defined time for us to stop TTC when I can no longer cope with things and want to have some life again. Endo is just cruel.

My main advice would be to do a basic fertility assessment early and then seek help early if not conceived within 6 months. X

[MangoStickyRice in reply to Endofitall]

Hertility do a really nice Hormone & Fertility Kit. I ordered one last year as part of my endo diagnosis journey - I wanted to check the status of things in that department. Would recommend.