Weight gaining after surgery

[Kamna1]

Any help to cope with the continuous pelvic pain ,I am gaining to much weight after my surgery in February,I have gained 30 kg extra can't even walk properly, breathing becomes difficult,can't concentrate so even diet feels difficult,I have to join NHS weight loss program but I am scared after one class that how I will manage to reduce my weight,lack of concentration makes everything impossible and difficult but trying hard to change my habits,is there anyone who gained so weight and trying to do something,The house I live doesn't have parking line , people come and park in front of my door everyday I had requested so many times that I can't drive much and I can't walk much but nobody understand, first I put a no parking sign and the crowd of people removed it saying that this doesn't have value,then I brought a disabled no parking sign so that I can get up in the car without walking much and the people have problems with that too everyday they make me embarrassed asking what my disability is ,OH my God I feel so ashamed and embarrassed to the and explain my problem but no one cares I have to park my car sometimes 2 km away from my home and walking back is very difficult for me ,I don't go much outside but sometimes I have to go out for my daughter's school and staying normal is difficult and people's questions make me so depressed that I feel like why everytime I have to explain them and cry ,shout about my condition to them and they make fun of my situation and to make me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed they tease me sometime I feel like explaining and sometimes I don't have so much energy to explain them and have to listen standing like a statue in front of them,feels very childish and stupid but others make me feel like this.Continuous pain ,lack of concentration, gaining weight, trying to do hard and other people talk very easy to say but very difficult to manage

[Cailleach]

Sorry to hear you are having these physical issues and your neighbours are not sympathetic about the parking. Do you have some friends and family around that can support you and understand your problems?

You said you have to go to the NHS weight loss programme - I don’t think they can make you go, but maybe you can look at it as a way of getting help and maybe meeting other people who will understand what you are experiencing, if it is a group session, You could try and look at it as a positive thing rather than something else that is making your life difficult. Dieting is difficult especially when you already have other problems. Maybe just take it very slowly and also increase your physical activity very slowly to get your strength back.

Are you still in a lot of pain even after the surgery? If so your GP should be referring you back to the hospital to see what else they can offer.

I hope you feel better soon xx

[Kamna1 in reply to Cailleach]

My pain is too much even after surgery,not even a single day I stayed calm after surgery now I feel I should not have my surgery at least I didn't have another side effects as weight gain,it is gaining every day more and more I was about 72 kgs at the time of surgery and last week I was 100 kg and after dieting for one week I gained two more kgs as 102 today, horrible life , can't concentrate on things I want to have my scanning done if anyone can do it please as after surgery I hadn't have any scanning pls do my scan again so that I can know why I have so much pain it is sometimes unbearable as with pain I get fever too and have to take paracetamol but no good effects,help me as I have more cholesterol,low vitamin D and yesterday I come to know about my liver too so tomorrow will be having more blood tests but to be honest I am living in hell now things are going more difficult for me ,what to do please help me in calming this pain at least I can plan something for my weight which is gaining every day I get swelling on my feets which had made my life more worse as I fell with swelling feets and my right hand arm is is in pain which gets injured while walking with swelling on my feets things are more complicated pls do a scan to see what is going inside me as I am still in lot of pain want to know the reason as according to doctor I can't have more surgery but please atleast give me some treatment to treat my pain.

[Cailleach in reply to Kamna1]

Sorry you are going through all this, it must be so hard and scary when you do not know what is going on. I guess your doctor is trying to find out with all the blood tests though. It might not be related to your endometriosis and surgery. They need to give you something to help the pain though, I hope you can get some help with that.

May be you would be better focusing on finding out what the problem is that is causing you to still have a lot of pain, and the swelling, and not worrying so much about dieting till you have got that sorted out. Trying to diet could just add to your stress. Hope your doctor is able to help you sort out what is going on xx

[Kamna1 in reply to Cailleach]

Yes,but living like this is very stressful,I was quite before when I had my surgery for some days but now I again started feeling frustrated and lack of concentration and energy,oh my God my brain is out of control I don't know what to think about,for my daily routine activities, my weight or my pain all these things made me more mad now I cry,shout anytime now,I am making everyone's life miserable now,I can't concentrate on my daughter her school,my husband,my house just I want is to sleep sleep and sleep,I have to push hard from in to do something but everyday doing same things, everyday pain, every day thinking is making me more nervous, please someone help me now as I am doing everything to control my body and feelings but to be honest it is very horrible, nobody understand,thank God I am taking antidepressants that are controlling me but otherwise I will be lost in my own home and body somewhere,one day I think about pain,other day lack of energy,other day my weight gain and other diseases that are coming with weight gain ohh help me please