Hi ladies
Just wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this, I have never felt pleasure from penetrative sex. I know painful sex is a symptom but wanted to know if anyone is still able to feel some sort of pleasure? I have kind of just accepted it but not sure if I should talk to my gyno more about it x
Hi, sorry to hear that you feel that way and i believe you are not alone not in this forum not in this world. Defo speak to your gyno to rule out and health issues and inflammation of the pelvic floor area makes it impossible for penetration let alone enjoyment. For me the mental block had become a huge hurdle step. Because 99.9% of the time i had experienced pain my body went into shut down mode and so did my mind. You might have accepted for the time being but ideally you would like to look into it because you do not want it to get worse by starting to resent yourself and then your partner and build a huge trigger stacking environment for yourself. Hope this helps a bit. Keep well and love yourself!
Hi, yes I think I have come to a point where I have accepted it now and even after my surgery nothing changed. I do think it’s starting to impact on my partner as he knows I’m in pain but I don’t say anything because at the end of the day it’s not his fault. I will definitely speak to my gyno again and see what she says and need to start learning to love myself! It’s so bad how you low you see your worth because of this condition
Hi there, I did enjoy sex until after then I could be in pain for hours or a day afterwards. It was really bad sometimes depending on my cycle. Sometimes no pain if it was the week after my period. Its rubbish. Surgery helped loads though x
Hi, it’s horrible isn’t it! I had surgery and still nothing changed unfortunately, I find it affects me emotionally too as well as the pain x
Sorry to hear that. I would raise it again with your consultant. If they are not taking it seriously, find a better one x
Yes I’m definitely going to, thank you x
My experience is similar. Some discomfort more than pain in certain positions but it was the after pain that got me. I wouldn’t be able to function for hours then a full day afterwards. Haven’t with my partner in maybe 6 months now as a result. I’m post laparoscopy now but still healing and hoping to try again with less post pain but we will have to wait and see
I hope the surgery helps you and you are to get some satisfaction x
If it helps, having some painkillers straight afterwards might reduce the pain severity or length of time you are in pain x
Hey, definitely can relate to the painful sex. Positions like doggy are just painful full stop for me and I don't enjoy it at all 
recently it's causing so much pain after that I don't want to have sex at all. But, we do make sure we are still intimate 
so we don't lose out on actually showing each other love and affection. Lots and lots of cuddles, massages, foreplay do gentle stuff rather than full sex, then you can still have some intimate time together. I'm lucky that I can talk to my husband and he is super supportive, so we work through things and find ways to enjoy ourselves, lots of communication that's the best advice! Talking and foreplay 😉
Surprisingly doggy I’m alright with but I think it’s because I know he can’t see my face showing that I’m in pain 😂 recently I have started doing positions where he can’t see me because I just don’t like him to see that I’m not enjoying it. But luckily just like your husband he’s very understanding and attentive! I feel bad because it’s not his fault and he should be allowed to have sex and enjoy it. He did ask me recently do you get pleasure I lied and said sometimes but I think Deep down he knows. The only problem with my partner is that he only enjoys penetrative sex (just my luck) no foreplay. But I have said to him we have to do foreplay and take our time so we are working on that 🤞🏼 I don’t how to make him enjoy it he literally just wants to get into sex 🙄
Honestly I would say have a really good chat with him and be 100% honest love, he sounds really lovely and i bet if you told him everything he would be more inclined to try sex in other ways other than penetration! Try experiment with toys and lubes if you're up for that, or bring in other fun elements, food etc. But please don't just grin and bear it, and don't lie to him and say you enjoy it when you don't. Sex should be pleasurable for you both I definitely understand feeling like you have to make your man happy, and yes it's definitely important that you both feel satisfied and comfortable. However, it's also important that you are not causing yourself pain, I'm sure he wouldn't want that! And as much as he says he doesn't enjoy foreplay I'm sure he would give stuff a go if it means that you guys get to have some painless sexy fun 😉 just be honest beaut 😘
I know your right I think because I’m not as honest as I can be he’s thinking she’s fine with penetrative sex so il just stick to that, if I tell him I know he will do what I want. We did try using honey during foreplay which was fun so I think I need to start introducing more of that 🤗 is there a particular lube you can recommend because I’m really sensitive down there so I wasn’t sure if I should stick to something natural like coconut oil. But I will definitely be honest with him and that way like you say we can just enjoy researching new things to do and have fun with it 🥰
Very good idea sweet, I bet he will be super enthusiastic once he knows the full story! Yeah we use olive oil because it's great for all over massage, good for your skin and is safe down there. Also a water based lube that we got from Amazon, it's called Lubido, think a bottle was £5 it's super slippy and a little goes a long way! Coconut oil is good too safe on sensitive areas I get sore easy too so I avoid anything with a smell usually, unless it's regular food. One that's lots and lots of fun is custard! We ended up laughing and making a mess, was good fun haha.
Oh yes olive oil is a good idea too 😊 yeah that’s what I want to avoid any lube that has a smell as I know it will be sore down there! Definitely going to try the custard didn’t think of that one!! 😍 I want to do melted chocolate and cream too! So many options to choose from. I do like dressing up so just need to prolong that and add in the foreplay!
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