I feel like I failed

[Kay9090]

Why do I feel so lonely 😭 I feel like I’ve failed in my life and my son is going to be lonely.

[stacylee78]

I’m sorry you feel like this, I can relate. I often feel lonely & like I’ve failed too but I’m sure you haven’t & I’m sure your son won’t be lonely. Is there anything specific that makes you feel this way? Has something happened? X

[Kay9090 in reply to stacylee78]

I found out last year I couldn’t conceive anymore. Then I lost 3 loved ones within 6 months. My relationship has broken down after 10 years of being together and we broke up 2 months ago. I feel as though everyone I love I lose, and everything I dream of end up broken. I wake up everyday wondering why I was put here to go threw so much pain. It doesn’t help that I’m in so much pain daily. Xx

[stacylee78 in reply to Kay9090]

I have also lost 2 loved ones in the last 6 months and accepted last year that I won’t be having anymore children. I have one son and he is a very happy 14 year old boy. He always asked for a baby brother/sister but it never happened and he’s accepted this too. He has friends and cousins, I was always very social but have really suffered with endo pain in the last 2 years. I feel guilty that I’m not the person/mum I once was and worry about the affect on him but he is a happy boy so I must be doing something right! Focus on your son and the positives in life, I know it’s hard. Have you had any counselling? This is really helpful. Break ups are not easy, I went through the same after 13 years together a few years back. I promise you, you’ll get through it. Focus on your son and make the best memories doing what you can as time goes so quickly.

You’re not alone and it’s ok to be sad/hurt but you must not so stay there. I’m here if you need to talk xxx

[Linley]

Why? You have a son you can cherish and you should be proud that you have him. Because my mum had Endo I am an only child but made some long time friends so I am not lonely. On the other side of the coin I had Endo and could not have a child so please count your your blessings, God bless and big hug🤗, you never know Mr right maybe round the corner.

[Supercover20 in reply to Linley]

Hi, everyone’s different. I knew as soon as my son was born that I couldn’t top that and I knew then I’d never want another. I never have. Except for in these annoying times, he’s always with people- friends, clubs, family, and me- I’m his playmate at home. He is far from lonely. However you feel about the other things that have happened, you can rest assured that as long as you are there for him and you keep him busy, he won’t be lonely. Your feeling of failure to me is the life I’ve chosen so you certainly won’t be judged by anyone as whether you have one or seventeen children, you will still be an amazing mother! xxxxxx

[LisaJL]

I’m so sorry you feel like this and can understand how lonely having endometriosis is. As for your son - I’m an only child and I love it, it’s made me be more social with friends and really value those in my life. Plus he’s lucky he has you in his life, so don’t feel like you’ve failed. Get through the bad days, it will get easier and remember your worth and importance x

[WeeTaz]

Hey.. i can tell you now im feeling the same.. my child is now 10 and for past few years we have had no luck with baby no2 and everyone around me is pregnant or recently had a baby.. its so hard.. i also feel my marriage is breaking down because i am struggling to cope and constantly feel so bad i cant give my child a sibling. My hearts being ripped from me every time i see a big fat negative. My emotiins are all over the place and i worry so much my child is lonely 😭 so my friend u are not alone im in the same boat x