Nervous about appointment.

[Dorygirl]

Hello. I'm getting myself into a state about my appointment with gynecology consultant on Thursday. My doctor has referred me back to gynecology as I've been trying for a baby for a year with no joy and get severe ovulation and period pains.

I've had laparoscopy's in the past which found endometriosis, adhesions and ovarian cysts. Although my last one which was 5 years ago found nothing and the consultant (who I'm also seeing on Thursday) was very dismissive about my pain and pretty much said take a paracetamol and you'll be ok. Which is not the case, I spend at least two weeks a month in a ball on the floor.

I'm generally a strong person but I'm so anxious about being made to feel like a silly little girl.

Sorry about going on, I've tried to talk to my partner about it but I just end up crying and making no sense at all.

[RR12345]

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear this... As someone who has had endo before and has not had a lap for 5 years, I believe that it should be investigated again as a recurrent condition. That said, no doctor should dismiss your symptoms as they are, as you say and feel, very real.

I myself had years of difficulties in trying to get very similar symptoms diagnosed (and they were due to endo). So I am totally sympathetic to your struggles in trying to get answers and fears about the outcome.

You are a strong person and feeling anxious is a perfectly legitimate response!! Particularly with the added pressure and disappointment of not yet being able to fall pregnant. I don't myself have experience of this, but I would to talk to your partner again. He's there for support - to listen and to understand - just as I am sure you would be there for him. And I'm sure he is feeling some of the same emotions as you're in the same boat together.

Fingers crossed the (old) gynecologist will be able to help. And if not, ask your GP to see another at a different hospital- as you are, under NHS conditions, freely entitled to a second opinion. My first gyne also brushed me off, suggesting that yoga was the answer. Fortunately, the second took me a lot more seriously.