Am I being unreasonable?

[emkatie92]

Hey Everyone,

So I went to see my gynaecologists yesterday after trying the Qlaira pill for 6 months as was suggested when I went in August 18. At that appointment they told me if the pill didnt help my symptoms they would do my 4th laparoscopy so see what is going on.

So I get there and surprise surprise its a different dr from who i saw last time again (mine has gone on early retirement due to ill health and I have still not been reallocated). I explain what happened last time and how the pills made it worse to be met with the usual 'you're 26, having a baby will help treat it' and then was told I should try the coil as it heals the endometriosis.

Now the dr who has retired has done my last 3 laparoscopies and said that he would not give me the coil as it wouldn't work and I would find it uncomfortable. I ended up arguing with her to do the laparoscopy as promised from the last dr as I can't take being fobbed off anymore and refused the coil.

She has put me on the waiting list (who knows what dr will operate), but now the stupid part of my brain is telling me i should have listened and tried the coil. I have read a lot about it not working and have several friends who have had to have theirs surgically removed after becoming infected that it has really put me off.

Am I being unreasonable to not try it? I just wish that all the drs were consistent in treatments. I dont understand why one says it doesnt work and another says it does. I think I've reached the point now where I'm just getting fed up.

[Victoria1988]

I can totally see where you are coming from ive only had 1 laparoscopy done and they were really pushy saying if they found endo i really should have the coil put in when they were doing my lap it felt like i had no other choice as i have migranes so i cant have the combined pill so i had to have the coil i had it for nearly 10 months i tried so hard with it but everyday bad had hip pains i didnt have before, back pain, very bad acne and awful moods very upset all of the time and anxious i ended up going back to the gyne i said i would try for a little while longer she was so understanding and said things probably wont and we need to look at other options so i went away still tried and she was right i came back i had to see another gyne where i explained i wanted it out and my symptoms she said a totally different thing that the coil shouldnt give me those symptoms as if it was all in my head and i am silly for coming to have it out as i will be back to square one... (this was my experence i think everyone is different on hormones) i didnt care i got her to take it out and she said there and then i had to go on the mini pill 2 months on from taking that i have just been told to stop it right away as i was developing very lumpy breasts so painful pain killers etc wouldnt help and my gp was worried about that i have been told to stop taking anything by my gp for 3 to for months so that gives you 3 different consultants/gp giving my different opinions im sick to death of hormone thearapy and every doctor saying something different 😠 i can totaly get where you are comming from as i say i didnt want the coil and they make you feel like whatever choice you make is the wrong one i hope things work out for you ☺ hope you feel better soon xxx

[emkatie92 in reply to Victoria1988]

It just frustrates me so much that none of them seem to suggest the same thing. If I had something more 'known' like diabetes they wouldn't tell me to try a hundred things, it annoys me that something that affects just as many people is so unknown. I hope you feel better soon too and manage to get on the right medication to help you xxx

[Victoria1988 in reply to emkatie92]

You are so right! I hope you get to a point where you get some answers ☺ as i said for me the coil was no good neither the mini pill but for thats not everyone as we are all different but i guess if you are thinking about the coil you could always seek more info doesnt mean you have to get it ☺ if you need someone to talk to or any questions on what i mentioned feel free to message me hope i can be of some help have a good evening xx 💛

[AllthatGlitters]

Every doctor I saw pushed for the coil and I refused as I didn’t want it in my body, we have rights too and I was scared with all of the horror stories you read.

You have to make the right decision for you and not be pushed into anything.

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