I honestly can't believe the journey I've had. I try to not feed into the idea that I'm being let down or have a victim mentality as I know it's unhelpful. I just try to deal with the reality of the now and not get worked up over what's happened or not happened. I've worked as a non medical doctor in the NHS for over 10 years so I know what it's like. I know it's not black and white and there's a lot that goes on that as a patient you're not aware of but I just feel I've had enough of it today and my patience has run out. I'm just so angry.
It's such a long story so I'll try keep my rant to a minimum... I've been very ill for 4 years. I was told 2.5 years ago I had fibroids, then told I showed signs of ovarian cancer, then told I didn't have signs of cancer but may have endometriosis. I had a lap 2 years ago and was told I didn't have endo and my fibroids were asymptomatic so my difficulties (at that time abdominal pain & insane bloating & crippling fatigue) were due to IBS and stress. I then started to have back pain and in March this year, I was told I may have arthritis. I had an mri and was told I had severe endo throughout my pelvis and that my ovaries couldn't be located. I was then told I needed surgery but more scans were needed to plan it as it looked like my bowel was involved. I had another mri and was told, I had endo and a large cyst growing off my ovary and surgery was definitely required to remove it but I needed a ct scan to plan surgery. I knew they weren't telling me everything at this point and became convinced that I had ovarian cancer. After the ct scan, I was told the cyst was actually a fibroid (the same one from 2 years ago) that had endo inside it and it was causing me all the pain but I didn't have endo elsewhere, just inside the fibroid. It's it just me or did all this just sounds like they just don't have a bloody clue?! Meanwhile I'm just freaking out, getting sticker, leaving my job, have no money and having no life.
I was told that the endo team had been looking at everything and advising. I was told surgery would not be the best route and instead I should take zoladex for 6 months and then 'we'll see'. I was not happy with this.
I met with my GP today as it didn't make sense to me and I didn't feel comfortable starting zoladex when everything was so confusing. I didn't feel I could make an informed decision given what I'd been told. All the info was conflicting and I didn't buy the explanations they were giving me- I can't find anything anywhere about endo inside a fibroid. I still felt they weren't telling me everything. It felt like the consultant was minimising everything and just wanted me to be quiet and just do as I was told. (like when I asked well informed questions about endo, he just joked "oh it seems you're reading the same books as us" and avoided the question).
The GP was great and showed me the most recent letter and there is so much they haven't told me. Like the fibroid is pulling my uterus back and up. My uterus and the fibroid are full of haema(something) material. My case was discussed at the oncology multidisciplinary meeting (not the endo one as I was told, also, oncology!). There was great emphasis throughout the letter about how complex and unusual my case was. The letter also stated that my focus was to preserve my fertility... Which has NEVER been discussed with me and is not actually the case. My priority is to feel well and try have a good quality of life. I'm so angry about this. Because of this assumption, they say that I will not be offered surgery as it would mean a hystectomy but that it would be the only way to remove the fibroid.
I wish I'd got a copy of the letter as there was more in it that was medical but couldn't remember everything.
As a result of all this, I'm requesting my medical notes and tomorrow I am phoning the endo Centre to request a meeting with an endo specialist (the GP suggested this). I just feel I'm not being told what's going on. This is my body! How am I supposed to make informed decisions about my treatment when they aren't telling me everything?
I would never have offered a patient treatment without making sure they fully understood 1.their 'diagnosis', 2. The treatment and 3.the full risks of treatment. I don't feel anything has been explained to me. The consultant just kept telling me zoladex was just a 'tiny injection'. He spoke to me like I was an idiot. I knew fine well what it was due to this amazing forum.
I'm just so angry. I had to vent. Thank you for hearing me.