Miscarriage pain cruel 😢

[Lyn84]

It has taken 5 days for my miscarriage to truly kick in and it took four days to get a definate diagnosis i am now in a lot of pain and the strong painkillers the dr gave havnt touched it no sleep for me tonight and i have work tomorrow i admire anyone who has been through this more than once and managed to stay strong i couldnt bare the thought of going through this again it has been like torture

[luthien]

oh no poor you

have you talked to your gp about time off work, so you can mentally get through this, that may help you manage your feelings - after all it is a grieving process as much as it is painful.

The pain I have heard can be extreme as your body needs to reject everything so it takes a while - another reason to have time off work.

If you can't get to your gp perhaps look at going to a walk in center or if in the UK call 111 the NHS helpline as they can book emergency appointments with your gp or another one close by even walk in center or out of hours clinics.

[Lyn84 in reply to luthien]

My boss said she couldnt give me time off as we were too busy i felt emotionally strong yesterday but today when i told someone there reaction was oh u can just try again they said it like it was no big deal which i found hurt i may have not known i was pregnant long but that baby was important to me

[luthien in reply to Lyn84]

Could you perhaps talk to HR directly as to their processes? I think there is more push for a miscarriage to be recognised as a bereavement - the company may have things put in place to help women but your manager may not be aware of / may not think you need the support.

If you're in the UK you can talk to a member of UNITE as to what to do / what you can do and what work must be seen to be doing with regard to your situation. If you are a member you can arrange a face to face meeting, I've found them really useful for my endo and support during pain / symptom times with regard to what work should be doing to help. If youre work doesn't comply with UNITE guidance they can be investigated. I know it won't help immediately or with the pain; but it will help emotionally, work getting you all stressed wont help you get well.

[Lyn84 in reply to luthien]

Hi i work in a small salon and my boss suffered the same herself she has been supportive in that she took me straight to the hospital when i was at my worst and has shown a great deal of worry for me i got through the day ok yesterday i just found other ppls attitude to what i had been through quite casual i had been off work over the weekend when it initially started so im grateful i didnt have work then