Feeling low and why aren’t I feeling happy

[Swats]

Hi ladies,

Having a down day today and just wondered if things will get better?

So I’ve had Endo for 5 years now. Last year it got bad and I got diagnosed with it. I had my opp 3 wks ago. It went well 👍🏻 Ive got to have 6 wks off work. I can’t drive for 6 wks and got the sexy hospital socks for 6 wks. Last year I felt quite depressed. Started to have counselling and it didn’t help my health was getting worse but didn’t know at the time what it was. I’ve been single over a year. I didn’t feel I was in a good place to start a relationship with my health. I cancelled a lot of plans last year too due to being unwell.

So now I’ve had the opp obviously I’m so pleased it went well. But because I’m single and live alone just feeling frustrated I’m not back doing what I want as yet. The first wk off work I was ok and had lots of visitors but now I’m at home alone I’m starting to reflect on things and feeling like Endo has taking over my life. I love the sun but even that’s not making me smile today. I couldn’t make a barbie today as it was too far away and after 2-3 I’m really tired and need to come home. Has anyone felt like this or got any tips to help me lift my mood?

Sorry for moaning just feeling low and lonely today

[Kay_K]

Hi

So sorry you feel this way...I was in a similar place as you also and it’s hard to bring yourself up when you feel so low.

I’ve recently started going gym and doing light work outs, may not be your thing but it’s a time I use to distract myself from all those negative feelings and a chance to meet new people.

Also maybe think of a short break away....bring a friend and use that time to relax your body from all the work it’s been doing.

Hope you’ll be ok x

[Swats in reply to Kay_K]

Hi Kay,

Thanks for your reply.

I’m used to going to the gym 5 times a wk and I’m not allowed to go back for 12 wks. So I think that is getting to me too. I’ve been away with my Mum Dad this year which was lovely but not the same as with friends. They went to Ibiza wk after my opp. So I think it’s a mixture of my hormones and life around my still going ahead without me. I’m quite a sociable and active person so the time of resting is getting to me.

How are u going with your journey? Hope your doing ok yourself x

[brizzlebird]

Sorry you are struggling. It's really normal to feel low after surgery so don't be too hard on yourself. Try some gentle distraction. I've started a new Facebook group specifically for Endo and mental health if you would like to join x

facebook.com/groups/2158766...

[Swats in reply to brizzlebird]

Thanks i know I’ll have my ups and downs I just didn’t think I’d be this down after surgery. I don’t think it helps I was on the pill over 10 years. Then I went on the gnrh injects then to surgery so my hormones are probably all over. Thanks I’ll have a look, is it a private page? x

[brizzlebird in reply to Swats]

You have been through so much. Yes it's a closed group x

[Swats in reply to brizzlebird]

Thanks I’ll have a look x

[princessk09]

Hey, I have weeks where I’m so down and crying like every night. Then some weeks I’m really happy.

I’m waiting to have my first lap on the 12th July so I’m a bit nervous and stuff atm which is affecting me mentally.

I always use and recommend an app called headspace. You can use the free 10 day trial unlimited and it really helps to feel relaxed and ways to deal with negative thoughts and feelings etc.

I’m dreading my recovery as I’m very active with sport and going gym but I won’t be able to play for a couple months since it’s twisting etc.

Last few months, I haven’t been able to go out due to fatigue and pain which gets you down so I know how you’re feeling with that xx

[Swats in reply to princessk09]

Hi,

Sorry to hear your going through it too. On a positive I can say my opp went well and I’m not in pain. I nearly ended up with a colostomy bag but they managed my surgery without it. I am so pleased for that. I just need to sort out my mental state now. I’m not sleeping due to hot sweats which I think is hormones so no sleep effects my mood. Yes I’ve heard of the app but not signed up for it.

Hope you go on ok with your opp x