I want to stop taking pain pills

[Suesinger71]

I have such a stressful life, my husband is a drunk he's been hiding it lately and I can always tell. So I run to my pills. I have to have neck surgery again. I just want my old life back. Please someone give me advice.

[missymo]

Dont stop your pain pills or your life will get worse.susiesinger.get rid of that man!! For your own health!! I did!@ bless you.x

[Suesinger71 in reply to missymo]

Thank you missymo I just have no where to go and I have to have neck surgery in November. So I feel stuck. I feel that is why I take more than I am suppose to. I just need help I feel like I going to have a neverous break down.

[louisecopley]

It sounds like there is a lot going on. start taking it one step at a time. I am personally not a fan of long term pain medication, you could look into more pain management techniques and natural medication that deal with the cause of the pain rather than just masking the symptoms. EFT / Tapping is great, I use homeopathy (the remedies really helped my neck pain, although I haven't had surgery) and seeing an osteopath may also help or a suggested body work specialist. more importantly living with an alcoholic is gonna probably be part of the stress in your body. there is so much emotion and don't feel like you must deal with it yourself. join an Al-anon (family / partners) of alcoholics and start getting some support. Once you take care of yourself, it will become a lots easier to deal with your husband. You are not alone xxx

[missymo in reply to louisecopley]

Louisecoply.what is tapping??

[Helena_M]

Hi, I'm new on here and I just read your post. Really sorry you're going through this.

With the medications you're taking, I can understand why you would want to come off of them but reducing them at a time when things are more settled and in a measured way might be more sustainable in the long term. It's wise to withdraw slowly and with support so that your body can get used to the lower dose rather than all at once.

When you say your husband is a drunk, is he abusive when drunk (physically, emotionally, psychologically or financially)? Sometimes when you are in a situation where another person is being abusive, it can be really hard to tell. Asking yourself if you feel scared, bullied or controlled is a good way of knowing. I'm only asking because there is a lot of support to help you leave at a time that's right for you if and when you choose to do so. If he is abusive it's wise to plan leaving in a safe way and the Women's Aid 24 hour helpine can support with this. Please don't tell him that you are going if this is the case as it can be unsafe. Even if he is not abusive, Alcoholics Annonymous can offer emotional support to you as a relative of someone who has an alcohol addiction.

There are stacks of other groups in different areas across the country that can offer support. The helpline above can signpost you there.

Good luck with it all and sending strength Xxx