Help with Mood Swings please!!!!

[Charlotte5629]

Hi i'm Charlotte and I'm 19 years old and I live in Banbury, near Oxford. I was diagnosed with endometriosis last year when I was 18 but been having symptoms since I was 17. Ive had one laparoscopy and it has come back again recently but been advised not to have another operation because I'm so young so I should "save" them. I had the physical pain i have to go through but more than anything then emotional strain is horrible. I feel angry all the time for no reason and i go from being happy to sad back to happy and then angry and depressed and I just don't know what to do to make myself feel better emotionally. It is having an impact on the relationship with my boyfriend because I keep getting angry and irrational about things and taking it out on him and my continual mood swings and I just don't know what to do! Was just trying to see if anyone has any advise or just to try and find a friend as well to be honest as I don't personally know anyone with it so it feels like no one understands, if that makes sense!

[PinkieKT]

Hey Charlotte

I'm the same my moods can change really quickly & I often snap at my boyfriend for no reason. I said to him the other day my fuse has got a lot shorter lately & he said I'm glad I wasn't the only one to notice this…oops!

I try to be mindful when I can feel myself getting the rage & he keeps reminding himself that it's not me it's the endo making me an angry person.

I haven't found the secret to stopping this but have found talking to him about it helps him try to understand what I'm going through. Unfortunately endo is a long journey of many emotional twists & turns that we have to deal with on top of the pain.

🙈

[Charlotte5629 in reply to PinkieKT]

Oh my god I am so glad you replied saying this!! I am so glad I'm not the only one! My boyfriend is good about that too and always reminds himself it's the endo and not me but I still feel so angry at myself for being angry towards him! Do you find your really really irrational as well???

And I know, I don't think people understand the emotional toll it has on people either!! 😔

[PinkieKT in reply to Charlotte5629]

Haha I know that feeling being angry at myself because of what I've said to him. Yep totally irrational, when I look back later on what set me off I'm like really woman get a grip that was nothing.

You're right people don't understand what we go through, Google is great to explain the how & what but not the emotional side of it & how small things become huge sometimes.

[Charlotte5629 in reply to PinkieKT]

Yeah I feel exactly the same! I get angry about the stupidest things!

Yeah I completely agree! Couldn't agree more!!

[RainbowBeth]

The rollercoaster that is the life with endo! I can safely say, I go through all the emotions under the sun and if I'm really lucky it happens all in one day! Throw in a bit of tiredness that just tips me over lol

I have found having a good cry when needed has helped to release the tension. Also talking to people about feeling grumpy (so they know I am not being a cow for no reason) has helped. I also had some advice recently on here about trying mindfulness to help keep positive. So that's worth giving a go.

Partners are supportive and the more they know about how you feel the more they can judge how to support. (Although this comes with the odd occasion of getting it wrong lol) x

[Charlotte5629 in reply to RainbowBeth]

Yeah I tend to cry a bit as well as well because I become emotional! Mainly because I get annoyed about my emotions and become upset!

Thank you so much for your help! I will try mindfulness and see what happens!

Yeah my boyfriend is amazing about it but I just feel terrible when I get angry at stupid things

[AHewitt17]

Hi Honey- I live in Banbury too! I've had symptoms for almost 2 years but waiting to be diagnosed in August. I can completely relate to what you've said- I found that my mood swings and anxiety were to do with my implant I had for 6 years and I've since had it taken out and have gone completely back to normal- honestly feel like a different person! Best thing I've ever done because like you, it was causing such friction and stress in my relationship.

I don't know if it has anything to do with it but since I've had it out my endo symptoms and pain have got better as well. I've also been following the endo diet which has honestly changed my life and would recommend it to anyone to try if you don't mind me asking, what contraception are you on? Could be the extra hormones making a difference.

I'm a super emotional and sensitive person as well and sometimes it just gets too much and you just want to explode- its so hard to explain to our other halves what it's like and it frustrates both of you because there's not much they can do to help and it's extremely hard for them to properly understand what we're going through! Just remember you're not on your own

You can message me any time if you want a chat and I'd be happy to meet up for coffee or something if you want a friendly face to chat and unload on who understands what your going through! I know how tough it is and I'm only just really starting the journey! Hope you're doing okay