Fed up

Hi, had the most emotional week. Had a lap in Feb, I have since had 3 normal periods. Have been trying for a baby (like forever!), so was over the moon when my period didn't start this week. Took 2 tests and both are negative. I'm now 5 days late and don't know why. Feel so low and to top it of its my birthday tomorrow. Don't know ow what to do. Could I pregnant? Has anyone else experienced this?

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  • I don't really have any advice on this but wanted to let you know that you are not alone in feeling like this. I had my lap 4 weeks ago, my period was due a week after but 3 weeks on its still not arrived. My gyne said this is nothing to worry about and could be my hormones playing up after the op, I also had a dye test to check my tubes etc. I am getting frustrated as myself and my husband are trying too but how can I try when I don't have my period, how will I know when I'm ovulating etc.

    Anyway, maybe try another test in a couple of days if your period doesn't turn up. Try not to worry about it, I know that's easier said than done. Xx

  • Thank you for your reply. I think it's harder when on the outside you look and feel fine but to think that our insides are so messed up. I hope things happen for you soon. I don't know about you but I feel like I'm wishing away my life all the time. Good luck xx

  • Yes I am exactly the same, I just want my period to get here so I can start tracking ovulation and we can start trying again. Couldnt try for the last 3 months as I was in so much pain and was then recovering from my lap. Good luck to you too. I am here if you need a rant anytime :-) x

  • Well I had my lap over2 years ago and me and my partner have been trying unsuccessfully. I had to have a hsg in October and they said oh try now! My period was 10 days late and I thought I was pregnant until it arrived. Now I'm having to start clomid.

  • Hi, thanks for your reply. Can I ask what Clomid is? Never heard of it X

  • Hi Lucy it's a drug you take to try and help you conceive x

  • Thanks. My doctor has never mentioned such a drug. I'm going to mention it when I next go. Thanks again x

  • I know with me they had tried everything else first like the lap and flushing out my tubes and I have been trying for almost 2 years and it isn't happening so I think this was the next step x

  • This must be so frustrating for you. Unfortunately I know from obsessively googling that lots of people have late periods but no pregnancy. Have you tried taking your temperature every morning? As long as you take it consistently it's really easy to see when you have ovulated. When you know your luteal phase length you can accurately predict your next period as it only varies slightly. I tried ovulation predictor kits but didn't find them as straight forward.

    Anyway, good luck with ttc. I hope we all get a happy outcome soon!

  • Hi, thanks for your reply. I will definitely try that. I think I have a rough idea when I ovulate and it's always been around the same time each month. My periods have been completely normal since the lap, so just can't understand why it's suddenly stopped. I've also had little pain. I have had a slight dark brown discharge (the smallest amount) but that's now stopped. Felt like there was some hope after the lap, now i feel like I'm back to square one 😢X

  • I know exactly how you are feeling Lucy I had a lap and endoscopy in Feb and I feel like it's never going to happen but we must try and stay positive. Oh and if one more person tells me to "Just Relax"I may have to hit them 😡😡😡😡😡😡 although I know they just mean well. I feel like I'm on a constant spinning hamster wheel of cycles and ovulations. I have now contacted my surgeons secretary to get myself put on the waiting list for IVF I'm really hoping it dose not come to this but I am also aware that having it through the NHS may be a long wait and I want to be in the system again and in a funny way I feel it also will help to take the pressure off knowing they is more help if I don't fall pregnant naturally. My period was very late after my Op but been pretty regular since. I've noticed the pain I used to suffer with in my right ovary has come back, I'm going to email my surgeon about this. Just to be clear I have endometriosis and some PCOS. Wishing you all the very best, your not alone. Xxx

  • Hi, I know what you mean, the comments that get me are 'try not to think about it' or you're bound to get pregnant when you go on holiday' - I didn't realise that going abroad is a magic cure!! I am also thinking about IVF, unfortunately the NHS won't find it due to my age (I'm 36!) so I'm saving like mad. A few family members have offered to help but I'm worried that will put even more pressure on myself to work. I wish I could stop thinking about it. Good luck on your journey xxx

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