Just need to vent and some support and advise please!

[Benjasperjake14]

Hi ladies

I was diagnosed with mild endo on my ovaries 5 years ago after a lap. They didn't remove or anything in the surgery as they said the cysts had disappeared by the time they operated. They told me to get pregnant before I am 30 or I would never have any children. I have wanted children since I was 16. This upset me as I had a miscarriage before my lap.

I fell in love with an amazing man and we got married last March he is very supportive of my condition and always try's to help with my pain. Unfortunately he had the snip 8 years ago due to a lump he had and they had to give him the snip while he was under due to medical reasons he is devastated that we can not have children.

I'm hrartbroken as I am 25 and running out of time to have a baby. We had a fertility meeting hoping to get Ivf through nhs but they won't fund as my husband has children from previous marriage and had the snip. It would cost 7 thousand for just one go and we can not afford that. We did think about adoption but the social worker was not good and put us down. This really effects me as I get depressed when see people pregnant and all my friends getting pregnant etc.

We have a friend that has offered his sperm he is gay and says if he can produce it then it better go to a good cause and I am happy that I have someone that will do that for me but it hasn't worked yet and it is not the best way to try for a family it is very embarrassing for me and i know this may seem silly but I don't feel like a normal women as I can't conceive naturally with my husband. I'm still depressed even tho we are trying. I do try not to plan to much but with the way we have to do it it has to be planned I'm so scared about all this.

Sorry for the rant any advice you may have would be great xx

[Emilina29]

First of all I am really sorry to hear of your struggles, sounds like you are really struggling at the mo. I had a miscarriage in January 2015 and now every time i see a pregnant woman or baby i feel pain so i know how you feel.

I know you've probably thought of this but can the snip be reversed? Also they do reverse themselves sometimes, is this a possibility?

Also they say that its harder to get pregnant when you focus on it too much due to stress etc. May be continue with what you are doing now with your friend and just stop focussing on it so much. I know its so much harder to do this than say it but it may be the release you need in order to get pregnant.

I hope you get pregnant soon or find a way out of this situation for yourself and your partner.

Good luck lovely and always here if you need a chat, just to vent and de-stress xxx

[Benjasperjake14 in reply to Emilina29]

Thank you. To have a reverse will cost thousands for us and will be very low percentage because of medical reasons for him bless him. I do push it aside as I don't bother with ovulation tests etc and sometimes I don't know we doing it till its hear and then just insert it do doing as much as can to not focus on it.

Thank u for your reply I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage I still feel the pain now even after all these years xx