No more wine for me.

[Crochetchica]

Hi. I’ve been drinking wine to self medicate for too many years to mention, A week ago I had a fall in the night (I was drunk) and have bruised my ribs badly. I’ve not had a drink since and don’t want one. I feel very depressed and exhausted. I’m pretty sure this is part of the withdrawal from alcohol but would appreciate some support. Thank you x

[Boston001]

As I'm sure you know alcohol itself can cause depression. Add to that any other problems you have and it blurs the lines. Stopping anything your voice of reason is telling you is a good step in the right direction. If you think you have a problem chances are you do.

[SoberDrunk1]

Yes, it could be due to losing your friend. See if you can find some local AA meetings around where you live. If you dont find one, there are zoom AA meetings all around the world you can join. Educating yourself about the disease will help overcome the malady.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

The initial detoxing period, physically, only takes a short time. But the mental and emotional effects took me much longer.

Of course I was depressed. I had to give up my best friend. My drinking was always my go to for a solution for my pain and discomfort.

Keep checking in with us so we can support you

[Crochetchica in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Thank you.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to Crochetchica]

I’m here for you.

[Hidden]

hi im sorry about this it happend to me during lockdown ill pop back as low on charge

[Murphy81]

hi hope your ok after your fall

Honestly you will start to fell great soon the first week to 10 days I cut down felt drained restless on edge of after going gym

Then after that started to fell great sleep got a lot better was not craving beer and stop thinking about it all time

I have had one night in 5 weeks this group helped me and last night had a nice meal and just a couple of drinks and fell great today

We are here to help take care and hope ribs ok

[chloe40]

Welcome to our friendly Community Crochetchica

You had many really helpful replies, which I hope you find reassuring, you're among friends, we're all here for you!

Stay in contact when you can, it helps.

Chloe

[Crochetchica]

Thank you so much everyone. The ribs are getting better but the anxiety is off the scale - a reaction I think to giving up alcohol. It’s very frightening but I’m meditating and doing gentle exercise.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to Crochetchica]

Giving up alcohol is a big deal. It’s truly amazing how much physical damage drinking does. And then there’s the mental and emotional damage. It’s a rough road to healing. But taken a day at a time, it’s manageable. Keep checking in.

[Hidden]

hello again during lockdown i had boxes of wine stored in my house i had moved out of and stayed at my mams house due to ptsd rats were in my kitchen ceiling and under floor investigations took over year to find broken drain was my nebours environmental health put poison up thd rats died them more came smells flies got through air vents, i hated having to have the poison down and them die but i had no choice, i stayed at mam house lockdown until her anxiety bad as id met a friend in park and hugged her, i moved back home and was shakie at first and hit the boxes of wine, i feel over my cat backwards on a sharp edge of worktop n then stool had big graze and bad bruised ribs could hardly get out bed took about ten mins to get out, i had to resort to alcohol again in moderation for the pain to sleep, it took months i had to move back to mams to get me off it, one of my liver counts was high so it shocked me, my dad died at that time too i craved sweets at first and drank non alco stuff at first pretending it was my usual comfort, i wish id taken medication but as i fear meds i turned to drink thinking id be ok and it got out hand, i am drinking in moderation hopefully had 2 cans cider last night wasnt too bothered but was satdy and wasnt ready for early night id nodded off earlier, i still have 2 cans left and didnt enjoy the last glass but had it anyway, i wont buy full strength wine now, i stopped 3 months twice in last 8 years and 2 2 weeks nothing, my stomaches a bit off so ill be on chamomile tea tonight, i think AA be good for you i went once, wanted to go again but location a issue, they were a lot like us binge self medicate, you do need the help outside not just here, i have my mam to keep me in line, hope you go to AA x

[Crochetchica in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. I know the anxiety is just excess adrenaline but it’s still frightening. You’ve done so well and it’s given me hope x

[Hidden in reply to Crochetchica]

well i went back home as my drinkin was ok i started again from pain with my trigiminal nuralgia and boredom last lockdown, some clashes with mam drove me back to my house intension to do few changes and sell and buy another, i decided to stay as loved my garden and pafk but the councelling i had during rats advice was make it look different, i ended up living upstairs due to work going on,and by day id come to mam house few hours, i ended up on bottle wine most nights but could stop at one glass if the wine wasnt that good which id got frim corner shop as didnt intend any, id started feeling terrible and guilty too and it discusted me, so i was able to have drink free nights, luckily my liver remained back to normal, the 3 months off sorted that, i nearly binged last sunday due to a row with my mam, i was determined that day too to detox indefinately and i walked away took my cat in park calmed down, but i didnt want a drink exept chamomile tea until my sadness increased as tension was there in the house, i miss not having a home of my own, i sold mine last october,if i hadnt have been at mams house last sunday id have gone to shop, but buying alcohol woukdv caused more trouble, i am insecure about my future as if mam ends up in a home ill be homeless i may not be able to affird to buy her house, i dont want to leave the park or living near mam as she needs me sometimes, recently had a fall herself on the bottom stair due to trap nerve in back etc not drink, my mams nebours daughter died in her 4os from been drunk had row with her boyfriend, fell downstairs, you need to reprogramme your mind and get some advice from doctor about side effects of stopping you may need it gradual, xx

[Hidden in reply to Crochetchica]

is your heart ok a lady on here had to have ond unit of alcohol as it effected her heart stopping, i kinda like to have a bit in then know its there and the longer type drinks beer cider, which i struggle to drink much of, ive never drank 2 bottles in one night exept thd box sinario lock down my sisters heart went funny rapid when she had a lot, i do ger pounding palpitations after bottle wine too next day but drink lot liquid chamomile tea im not out the woods, i think ill end up at AA when mam dies bingeing is form of alcoholism and its a big risk to not stop totally but i went through like a grief after my last 2 weeks off so started the controlled drknking, ive tbought two if i can only have couple beers of cider whats point not that good id rather have wine and thats put me off too, i find now i dont need much to get effect, and even managed to not have any during my head pain which is like toothache, the cocodimol tablet box is unopen im afraid of them but there there if im bad, the cold weather is a set off but im ok in warm air xx

[Crochetchica in reply to Hidden]

Amazingly my body is fine but my mental health is rubbish!!!!

[Hidden in reply to Crochetchica]

it does mess the brain up your seratonin levels will be low i used to swim that really made me feel great even in stress times it was my sanctuary place to go,try sitting in sunny window to lift mood, youl crave sugar at first too,ive never drank as much as you regular so i guess thats why it wasnt that hard for me after 2 weeks when i knew had to stop for my liver i wonderred why i ever drank but i relapsed from that lifes up n downs fluctuated my mood to drink, ive even cried when ive had bottle wine the day after feeling im not normal,

[Wish3]

I understand ! The guilt & withdrawal make you feel depressed! Do you have anything to distract yourself with ? A dog walk works for me when I am feeling low & raving a glass of wine ! Keep going though well done for making the decision to quit ! Not easy xx

[Crochetchica]

Thanks. X

[Hidden]

My only advice is to wear yourself out physically. I've never been great at dealing with anxiety any other way. I can't meditate. I'm too impatient and fidgety. So do the thing that relaxes you (except drinking!). You could go for a long, brisk walk and record a voice message to a friend and tell them how you're feeling. I do that and my friends also do the same to me. It's like free therapy!

[Crochetchica]

Thank you but I’ve just been diagnosed with arthritis but I am still exercising x