Even after 20 years of sobriety, my sister automatically said when we reminisced…….” Were you drinking then?”….We were talking about my childhood because I couldn’t remember any Christmas’s. I mean…come on…..my first drink was when I was 17, not 7. She doesn’t drink every day and can go a week without a drink or sometimes more, but when she drinks, she drinks like an alcoholic. I’ve told her that consuming alcohol damages neurons in the brain. (That doesn’t include the other affected organs) When the damage starts to occur depends on how much and how long the user has been using alcohol. My sister has been drinking for 63 years. So no doubt her brain has been damaged. Damage doesn’t stop until the user stops drinking and there is no guarantee that the brain can or will be fully repaired. Just like my brain….but I’m lucky since I stopped. And I do wonder how much damage I incurred upon myself when I was drinking.
When my sister comes up with silly questions about my drinking, I have to stop and think if she’s saying that because of all the alcohol she’s consumed in 63 years or is it because it’s her way of feeling superior to me because she doesn’t consider herself an alcoholic.? I choose to believe it’s because of the amount of alcohol she has consumed. It’s easier for me to accept that behavior and not stay in a state of resentment which is a killer for alcoholics. I can’t control how another person acts or thinks, anyway. Lecturing sends people scurrying and my sister would be in that crowd. Do I worry about her? Yes, I do. And every other person who could be harmed by alcohol.
I’ve come full circle now. People just don’t understand. 💔