Giving up wine

[Crochetchica]

This is my first post. I am 69 and female and drink far too much wine. I frightened myself today when I realised how much I have drunk this weekend. I am not going to drink anymore as I don’t want to live like this. I would be very grateful for any advice and support. Thank you

[Hidden]

hi can i ask how much and the reasons why you drink is it with others whilst your out or alone to perhaps unwind or for comfort, i find and so many others do wine is harder to drink less off and once the bottles open it has to be drank its the strength will power goes affter about 4 5 units, some find drinking none alcohol wines helps or maby go onto lower strength or try cider or beer if out in company, if you really want to stop you could try AA when i went it was mainly binge drinkers that wanted to cut down, binge drinking is very dangerous and is a form of alcoholism,ive been on off with alcohol stopped twice 3 months and 2 weeks twice before xmas. you may find ut inspiring work out the money you spend on wine put it aside each time you want to buy some 😊

[Crochetchica in reply to Hidden]

Hi. I try to keep to one bottle a night but this weekend I had two bottles each night. I only drink at home. It started with boredom and is now out of control. Wine makes me depressed and I drink to self medicate the depression!! I frightened myself today because I felt so anxious and ill. I like the idea about the money. How are you doing on your journey?

[Hidden in reply to Crochetchica]

i only had 12 units week before last and 17 last week, im doing really well i havnt bought any and i did buy one last friday and never drank it until saturday which i regret ive not had a drink 2 nights now 😊

[Crochetchica in reply to Hidden]

That’s brilliant and gives me hope! Keep up the good work.

[Hidden in reply to Crochetchica]

thanks it may help you to read tbrough posts, i feel anxious and guilty when i drink a full bottle of wine these days im 58 and my organs cant handle it,my sister ended up with a dangerous rapid heart beat from drinking about 2 bottles shes on beta blockers now it effected the electrics, it miggt help if you do the nhs app its on here and theres books that are helpful let us know how you get on 🤗

[Crochetchica in reply to Hidden]

Thanks 😊

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when I had had enough pain, shame, guilt and depression surrounding my drinking I began attending AA. It saved my life.

[fauxartist]

Everyone here is at a different level of dealing with alcohol.... I had to get support, and that was back in the day when the only affordable support was AA, today there are other alternatives as well. Many people are not interested in being in a recovery group, many are not ready to give up the option of trying to manage drinking, I can understand that, and no judgement here. I just couldn't and hit bottom, it seemed nothing ever kept me from wanting to drink when things got stressful, or my past haunted me. But the real truth is, you don't need a reason to drink when your an alcoholic...it's just an addiction that without support will win every time.

I used to think I was able to manage my drinking, and being a functioning alcoholic seemed socially acceptable, I paid my bills and worked full time... but nonetheless, I was still going off the deep end more often than not.... there was no manageable drinking, I just can't drink.

[Isinatra]

People go to AA to stop drinking, not to cut back. Unless it’s to cut back to 0. Its a great place to help people not drink wine or any form of alcohol if that’s your objective. After decades of trying to cut back or quit on my own, I found my solution. AA. It also saved me from a progressive disease that would have taken my life if I had continued.

[Wish3]

yes it’s hard to accept how difficult it is to stop ! Spent years telling myself that I don’t have a problem, but obviously do because I want to drink wine every night !

[Crochetchica in reply to Wish3]

Me too. I feel so much more in control of my mental health if I don’t drink, but I still want to drink 🤷‍♀️

[Wish3 in reply to Crochetchica]

I suppose as long as we don’t we are winning 🤷‍♀️ and it feels good in the morning to be proud that I didn’t! 🙏

[CAG123]

hi I’m new to this group joined today after reducing my wine drinking over the past two weeks I can identify with and feel really encouraged by all the posts

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to CAG123]

I’m glad you are in the group. I applaud your reduction in the booze consumption. Everyone doesn’t have to stop. Some people can moderate themselves. Good luck to you. And keep letting us know of your progress.

[LucyJaz]

Hi I hope you are doing well with reducing your wine. We have started only drinking weekends only and reducing what we drink hopefully. I love wine but it doesn't love me.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to LucyJaz]

Great plan. And no, wine didn’t like me either. A wine hangover headache is the worst kind of pain. Especially mixed with champagne!