Giving up wine

[Crochetchica]

This is my first post. I am 69 and female and drink far too much wine. I frightened myself today when I realised how much I have drunk this weekend. I am not going to drink anymore as I don’t want to live like this. I would be very grateful for any advice and support. Thank you

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

when I had had enough pain, shame, guilt and depression surrounding my drinking I began attending AA. It saved my life.

[Crochetchica]

Hi. I try to keep to one bottle a night but this weekend I had two bottles each night. I only drink at home. It started with boredom and is now out of control. Wine makes me depressed and I drink to self medicate the depression!! I frightened myself today because I felt so anxious and ill. I like the idea about the money. How are you doing on your journey?

[Crochetchica]

That’s brilliant and gives me hope! Keep up the good work.

[Crochetchica]

Thanks 😊

[fauxartist]

Everyone here is at a different level of dealing with alcohol.... I had to get support, and that was back in the day when the only affordable support was AA, today there are other alternatives as well. Many people are not interested in being in a recovery group, many are not ready to give up the option of trying to manage drinking, I can understand that, and no judgement here. I just couldn't and hit bottom, it seemed nothing ever kept me from wanting to drink when things got stressful, or my past haunted me. But the real truth is, you don't need a reason to drink when your an alcoholic...it's just an addiction that without support will win every time.

I used to think I was able to manage my drinking, and being a functioning alcoholic seemed socially acceptable, I paid my bills and worked full time... but nonetheless, I was still going off the deep end more often than not.... there was no manageable drinking, I just can't drink.

[Isinatra]

People go to AA to stop drinking, not to cut back. Unless it’s to cut back to 0. Its a great place to help people not drink wine or any form of alcohol if that’s your objective. After decades of trying to cut back or quit on my own, I found my solution. AA. It also saved me from a progressive disease that would have taken my life if I had continued.

[Wish3]

yes it’s hard to accept how difficult it is to stop ! Spent years telling myself that I don’t have a problem, but obviously do because I want to drink wine every night !

[Crochetchica in reply to Wish3]

Me too. I feel so much more in control of my mental health if I don’t drink, but I still want to drink 🤷‍♀️

[Wish3 in reply to Crochetchica]

I suppose as long as we don’t we are winning 🤷‍♀️ and it feels good in the morning to be proud that I didn’t! 🙏

[CAG123]

hi I’m new to this group joined today after reducing my wine drinking over the past two weeks I can identify with and feel really encouraged by all the posts

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to CAG123]

I’m glad you are in the group. I applaud your reduction in the booze consumption. Everyone doesn’t have to stop. Some people can moderate themselves. Good luck to you. And keep letting us know of your progress.

[LucyJaz]

Hi I hope you are doing well with reducing your wine. We have started only drinking weekends only and reducing what we drink hopefully. I love wine but it doesn't love me.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to LucyJaz]

Great plan. And no, wine didn’t like me either. A wine hangover headache is the worst kind of pain. Especially mixed with champagne!