Wine Habit

[Wenders01]

I'm a bit fed up, ive got into drinking wine during week, stress of work, I probably drink 3 bottles of wine a week, the next morning I get a bad cough and end up being sick and I get a painful stomach so I know its not agreeing with me but every time I say I'm not doing it anymore give a a day or 2 and I do it again, I feel like im in a rut and I want out. So today I have made my mind up, no more wine, day 1 for me but I feel a bit sad about it but also determined. If any of you lovely people can give any advise would be appreciated 😀

[chloe40]

Welcome to our friendly Community Wenders01

You'll find our members really supportive.

I'm so pleased your determined to do something to help yourself, that's great! Keeping in regular contact with those here who have been through it, will really help.

Alcohol is clearly not agreeing with you, and you say stress from work is the root cause, so as well as giving up the wine, I would suggest you find ways to help alleviate your stress. Otherwise you'll soon be looking for an alternative to alcohol.

Have you tried Yoga, Mindfulness or the gym on a regular basis? It's not easy I realise that, you have to work but both stress and alcohol don't mix.

Wishing you well

Chloe

[Wenders01 in reply to chloe40]

Hi Chloe Thank you so much for your reply, the shop that sells the wine I like is across from my gym so ive seen myself going to gym then into the shop after, pathetic I know, I will try yoga see how I go with that, thank you xx

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

Welcome to the community. Alcohol was, to me, like a good friend. For awhile it was a good companion. But then it turned on me and I had to give it up.

There was a grief process with that. No longer could I be the same person. I had to change everything. I joined AA, where I admitted I am powerless over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable.

You may or may not be an alcoholic. But not many social drinkers who I know can’t walk away from a drink.

Keep posting. Be accountable to us. And just don’t drink a day at a time. Reach out for help. We can’t do this alone.

[Wenders01]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

hello when i gave it up i felt a kind of grief inetting go i reaced it with sweet altefnatives at first stopprd 3 months as was having as you say too much nerly every night when my life was major stress you will feel better for not having it health wise, after 2 weeks i wasnt botherd, i started again due to winter and lockdown boredom.and lpain relief but it build up again, so stopped again started agsan 🤷i found it easier to moderate than just stop or say ill have none tonight then get some treats then the next night try same drink a lower strength wine last time i had red wine i added hot water i managed to drink less than half bottle for first time in ages it made me feel wonderful doing this, it made me so sad the last time i had full bottle the memories and foccus on this helped me drink less, you coukd try the non alco stuff too yul miss the sugar maby mix it with alco wine i did this too, i went swimming and got into health mode too relaxed and tiref to drink it hellped my lungs too 😊drinking used to make my chest a bit bad it must be strain on heart and getting oxygen to lungs etc

[Wenders01 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, I never had any wine last night and feel great this morning But I suppose its the weekend I have to be careful so I am going for swim/sauna tomorrow, I bought myself Kyle NA wine and going to see Guardians of Galaxy and take my dogs huge walks, so I have filled up my weekend, I got covid really bad which left me with asthma so I don't think alcohol is helping, but where I feel silly is even though it hurt my stomach and caused cough and breathing issues, it still didn't stop me, how silly is that? Hope you have a lovely af weekend thank you so much for you advise xx

[Hidden in reply to Wenders01]

good morning well is here in uk exept the rain im in good mood full moon tonight hope yul look out its v upliftin the best tonic ever no gin required lol, when yu said galexy i couldnt help think of the chocolate bar 😁as well as the moon,yes thats the key get your time filled with other things eventually the habit of drinking will fade i had become a moderate drinker leaving wine out the house, not having much in, maby 2 cans cider or beer nd only recently had the wine set backs due to shock and upsetment, sorry about covid yes took us ages to get chesty cough gone then got another bad cough not sure what,i have always had slight asthma but im ok if syay away from things that cause it,have lovely weekend 🤗🌝🌟xx

[Wenders01 in reply to Hidden]

You too lovely xx

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to Wenders01]

It’s not silly at all. For me, when I used to do it, it revealed how insane I am if I drink. One of the definitions of insanity is doing the same things over and over expecting different results.

That was me with booze. I kept drinking and drinking and expecting somehow I’d be able to control it. I’d do better “next time.” And I kept getting the same results. Blackouts. Inability to stop at one or two drinks. Terrible hangovers. Shame. Remorse. Guilt. Self loathing.

Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps me keep my memory green. And gives me the opportunity to talk to another alcohol abuser, where I can share my experience, strength and hope.

Here’s to a day without a drink. 😎