Just letting everyone know that my mother died yesterday. She was 90 and had been ailing for quite a while

but it is still such a shock. Have been to sort out funeral and flowers today. I'm feeling very fragile and upset at the moment. Me and my sisters had organised shifts so she would never be on her own (she was in a care home) and she died on my shift.

Bev x

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  • oh Bev, I am sorry to hear that your Mum has died.

    no matter how old or ill a loved one is, it is still a shock, Mums are special and a huge loss.

    Be sure to look after yourself and know that we are thinking of you.

    go with how you are feeling and don't let anyone tell you how to mourn.

    can you share her name with us so I can say a prayer? [maybe in a pm].



  • Thank you Sandra - her name was Margaret but she was always known as Peggy.

    I would pray if I was religious.

    Bev x

  • I said a prayer for Peggy, and am sending you a virtual hug.

    sandra. x

    My friend said she doesn't believe in a God - but, if she gets to heaven, hopes God believes in her!

  • I go along with everything Sandra has said. We are thinking of you and praying for you.

    Although in a way it is good that your mother is no longer suffering, it is still a great loss to you. I;m glad your sisters are around to help, but each of you will grieve in your own way.

    Do take care of yourself.

    Ann xx

  • So Sorry to hear of your sad loss.

    Thinking of you. xx

  • HI there,

    I am really sorry about the death of your Mother, she lived to be a great age, and I am sure you were very good to her. Grief is always hard but I guess death especially at 90 is inevitable. But its still hard no matter what age we never want to let them go.

    I lost my Partner Jim four years ago, and I still miss him, I use this this writing to get to thinking of him when I am sad. Hope you like it.

    When somebody dies, a cloud turns into

       an a?ngel, and flies up to tell God

       to put another flower on a pillow.

       A bird gives the message back to

       the world, and sings a silent prayer

       that makes the rain cry. People dis-

       appear, but they never really go away.

       The spirits up there put the sun to

       bed, wake up grass, and spin the

       earth in dizzy circles. Sometimes you

       can see them dancing in a cloud during

       the day-time, when they're supposed

       to be sleeping. They paint the rain-

       bows and also the sunsets and make

       waves splash and tug at the tide.

       They toss shooting stars and listen to

       wishes. And when they sing wind-

       songs, they whisper to us, don't

       miss me too much. The view is nice

       and I'm doing just fine.


    I love this and I hope you will find some comfort n it.

    May she rest in peace, and may God give you the strength, to get through this too.

    love Hannah

  • Thats lovely thank you Hannah.

    Bev x

  • So sorry to hear of your loss. It doesn't matter how old your parents are , they are still special to you. I know, I lost both of my elderly parents last year. Love and sympathy coming your way. x

  • I am so sorry for your loss x

  • hi bev sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mum last year she was 86. hope you have someone to talk to. best wishes soniaxxx

  • Thank you all so much. I have my sisters who are a comfort and friends. I just feel shellshocked at the moment and not my usual self.

    Bev x

  • Bev, it is good to have family around at times like this.

    take time for you..


  • Bev so sorry. To hear this...

    My thoughts are with you.....hope you are alright

    Much love

    Sue xxx

  • Many thanks all of you for your lovely remarks. It makes me feel better. The funeral was last Friday and I was dreading it. But it was a nice service and my Manchester cousins and their families came even though it was a 5 hour drive. I do feel relieved now its all over. I did most of my greiving when she was still alive. I am an orphan now.

    So sorry all of you who have lost parents. I lost my dad 4 and a half years as well. Its awful isn't it? I hate death!

    Bev x

  • Hi Bev

    I know what you mean when you say you are an orphan, more so that feeling, both my parents have passed away ' my mum was only 53 ..but it doesn't matter what age they are or you are it feels just as bad....I'm glad it was a nice service and you got to see some of your Manchester relatives....I lived in Manchester for 7 yrs :) living in the south now..

    Much love to you

    Sue xxxxx

  • Very belated hugs to you. I lost my 89 year old mum in January. We were with her when she went which though hard is some comfort now, knowing she was not alone.

  • hi bev I lost my little dog on 13th December my mum on 18th december then my brother on 13th april all close together still cant come to terms with it.. loys of love and hugs to you.

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