Lost and in desperate need of help

[Rutie]

Hi there, if anyone is caring for a loved one who has COPD and alcoholism, please message me. I’m so alone and don’t know what to do. My Husband was diagnosed with emphysema last May whilst in recovery for alcoholism. His drinking is getting really bad again and it’s effecting my mental health disorder bad. Last night I had to use a helpline to stop my suicidal thoughts. Sorry if this is triggering for anyone. Xxx

[jackdup]

Sorry to hear of your situation. Try posting at this forum as there are many more members there than on this forum and may get some replies and help there. It is also a lung related site.

healthunlocked.com/blf/posts

[Rutie in reply to jackdup]

Thank you Jackdup, yes I have posted on this one too. Wishing you peace, Ruth x

[barbs47]

Hi Ruthie I’m so sorry to hear what’s going on for you. I can sympathise as many many years ago I was married to an alcoholic. I’m so glad you contacted a helpline, the only advice I can give you is keep talking to people do not suffer alone. Barbs x

[Rutie in reply to barbs47]

Thank you Barbs, I’m trying to talk to people more. Fingers crossed it helps. Thank you for your kind words, peace be with you, Ruth x

[Bingo88]

Hello. I am sorry you are both going through a bad time. Your husband needs to see about getting back in touch with help for his drinking again. Which is also going to help you. Your in a vicious circle at present and it needs to be broken to improve things. Hope you can both talk and get this sorted out. Good luck. Brian

[Rutie in reply to Bingo88]

Thank you Brian. I know I can’t force him to seek support, but I wish I could. It’s really frustrating. We did have a good talk yesterday and I suggested some things we could try and he says he’s thinking about it. I’ll let you know if anything changes. Peace be with you, Ruth x

[Bingo88 in reply to Rutie]

Yes it's very frustrating and selfish of him to not get help again so he can support you. As your trying to help and support him. I have been in a similar situation to yourself and in the end I decided life was just too short to waste on people who didn't want to help themselves. So I went my own way and are a lot happier now with my mental health and freedom. Take care and keep in touch. Brian

[Rutie in reply to Bingo88]

Hi Brian, I’m glad you have freedom and better mental health. I had a good conversation with my Husband today, slowly slowly I can feel him opening up a bit. Just getting him to talk is good for him. I hope you have a good day. Ruth.

[Bingo88 in reply to Rutie]

So pleased you are finally getting somewhere. Just hope he follows it through and gets the help to make both your lives better. Keep in touch always here for support and a chat. Brian

[yorkpensioner]

There's an organisation called al-anon which you could try. It's for people who are affected by someone else's drinking. If you search for al-anon on the web, the website will give you a phone number for a free help-line or you may find a local al-anon group where you can share problems/get advice. Good Luck - you are not alone.