Hi all!
I realized I looked different when a so-called “friend” made a comment about my face in 7th grade, and everyone laughed. I was born with a very high hairline—13 cm from my brows—which has often been compared to the look of a middle-aged bald man. Since that moment, I have faced relentless bullying from friends, family, and even strangers, which has deeply affected my self-esteem.
Even my own family has made comments about how I look bald, which only reinforced my feelings of inadequacy. I’ve been told I’m ugly so many times that it has become a part of my identity. To cope, I’ve worn fringes my entire life and, for the past decade, I’ve hidden my forehead behind wigs, creating a barrier between myself and the world.
Despite wearing wigs, I often receive well-meaning advice to be comfortable in my own hair or suggestions to seek therapy. This can be frustrating, as these are the same people who make me fearful of showing my true self. I dread going out without a wig or hat, and I even struggle to look at myself in the mirror without covering my head. I feel like a prisoner in my own body, unable to embrace who I truly am. Simple joys, like going to the gym, are a challenge because the wig slides when I sweat and even taking a walk is difficult because the wind can lift my fringe or wig.
A few years ago, I underwent a hair transplant to lower my hairline, but it failed, leaving me feeling even more defeated. Now, at 32 years old, I have never dated and can’t even envision a future where I have a family—all because of my insecurities. I’ve had guys express interest in me, but they’ve only seen me with my wig on. The fear of rejection keeps me from giving myself a chance with anyone.
Recently, I discovered a two-step hairline lowering surgery that could potentially transform my life. It gave me a glimmer of hope, but that quickly faded when I learned the cost—£14,000. That’s an amount I simply do not have. Even if I worked for five years to save that money, would I still feel excited about living then? I want to feel confident in myself, to enjoy the little things in life, and to fall in love and have a family at an age I can safely have kids.
I understand this is not heart surgery to keep someone alive, but it really is changing someones live, allowing me to be my self and be able to embrace my self with out fear and anxiety. To just have a normal life, to have the bare minimum?
I have found a well-reviewed clinic and surgeon who focus on this complicated procedure, and not many places do it. I’ve done a lot of research, and this is the most affordable option I could find.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
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