I had a canthoplasty with a mid face lift and eyebrow lift to support it 11 days ago. The results are horrible, to say the least. I know it’s still early days and I’m trying to be patient in the hope the everything starts looking more and more natural over the next month or two. Right now, I have a very fake exaggerated look with one eye looking relatively normal and the other looking tiny, and very slanted. From my photo you can tell this is not in my head. I used to be “pretty” and I am not coping well with my appearance now. I went from looking friendly and approachable to witchy and disfigured. My family have reprimanded me for doing this and we are all just holding our breath in the hope that this looks better in some time. I cannot face the world as I am right now and cannot stomach being asked the question: “what happened to your eyes???!” I lay awake in bed half the night despising myself, wishing I never got this done and crying myself to sleep for a few hours if I’m lucky. During the day I check my appearance in the mirror every 5-10 minutes in the hope that something has changed. My own family can’t look me in the face. I know it’s irrafional but I think to myself: “what’s the point of living anymore”.
I know this is a very specific situation but does anyone have any advice for me? How do I resume life without being a mess, how do I keep hope that things will get better whilst feeling like they never will (which obviously is a possibility now.
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Hii there,sincerely i understand your worry i have an eye deformity that caused me bilateral ptosis in both eyes also having it on one of my lower eyelids,dealing also with strabismus.I also want to take surgery but really honey in my truly opinion i think your surgeon was quite a master i think your surgery was a completely success. The only thing that i see its that now the left eyelid looks a bit overcorrected but that is because surgery was really fresh and your muscles are a bit thigthen.I think you have to have patience for the muscles to shettle and to relax,i have heard that the final results you will see them when few months have pass. Believe me when i tell you that its great i saw a lot of oculoplastic surgeons and reviews and it truly is.You maybe fell like this bc you are surprised and you are not yet habituated to your new image. I also think that your family acts like this bc they are a bit upset because they did not approve your decision of making the surgery arent they? I think you have to also speak with them and to tell them to be open minded and to support you in every decision that you make if its going to make you happy. Finally if this thoughs continue to be in your mind i think you should seek professional help (psicotherapist). I honestly think its looks awesome,i wish my eyes could only look a bit like yours.mine are fucked up and i recieve abuse and reject every single day on my life, think also about that :).Send you lot of positiviness and strongness.
Thank you for your kind words. I really hope you’re right and they do settle. I really do feel botched but you’re right, for now I have to have more patience. I’m sorry to hear of your experience, you do not deserve abuse nor rejection for something as insignificant as your appearance. Sending you love and positivity back.
I totally understand how you feel but I had a different procedure. Nobody deserves to feel this kind of pain and I wish you were prepared for the emotional distress. I can tell you that your feelings are very common and everything will improve and settle with time. You must be patient and don’t look in the mirror that much. Assess your results once a month rather than day by day or you will drive yourself crazy. Tell your family that you need their support more than ever. You are strong and brave. You will get through this and come out the other side a better person and your results will improve with time.
You are so right. I am driving myself crazy looking for improvements so many times a day. I really pray that they do. Thank you for your advice, I am going to attempt to stay calm and level headed, focusing on other things whilst my eye (hopefully) heals. ❤️
Hey love, thanks for taking the time to read. For me, my depression spiraled into something really severe. Thankfully my family is extremely supportive. I was able to quit my job, move back home with my parents, and get help. I am 6 months post op and finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I also found a really good surgeon that is confident he can help me with my scar. It is been a journey since I’ve had around 10 other consults but I’m confident that I found the best. It was 5 and a half months of hell for me. I can finally say that I’m on the upward turn. This is why I really think you will be able to get through this. It is going to take time and it won’t be easy.... but you will get there. Plastic surgery is not for the weak. I wish surgeons were more explicit about the mental effects. Not being able to recognize yourself in the mirror is terrifying... but your face will settle and you will adjust.
Give it time to rest. Surgery always takes a few months to heal and quiet down. Also you may not be used to seeing yourself in a new way which can make you think you don’t look right. To me I cannot see anything wrong you are super pretty! If In a few months if you are still feeling that you don’t like it, reach out to a corrective surgeon and see what they say. Hope everything works out for you
Thank you so much for your kind words. They really do mean a lot when I’m feeling so low. I’m at a point where I’m trying to see things rationally and am really hoping things settle in the coming months.
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