help coping or medical hope for revision

[MICKEYJO]

biggest mistake of my life went to dermatologist let them do cryosurgery to 5 sun spots and 2 moles on cheek and chin now scars are much worse and im now isolated from life discolored and scars have taken my life over to my face, i have no were to turn and no family or support

[MICKEYJO]

a shell of a man left

[Abigail_B]

While my facial difference is something I was born with I too struggle with feeling isolated. I imagine that it’s harder for you since you have to adjust to life with a face that’s not what you’re used to. For me the most important thing is to consciously remind myself that other people are to busy to care what’s going on with my face, sure they look and stare and wonder for a little bit, but once they’re done their mind returns to whatever they where thinking about before. If you need to talk or vent feel free to message me. Sometimes disfigurement can take you to a dark place, it definitely does for me sometimes.

[MICKEYJO in reply to Abigail_B]

i AM SO ALONE WITH THIS IT IS A VERY DARK PLACE FOR MKE IM SO AFRAID IM 53 ALMOST 54 LOST ALONE ALL I CAN DO TO JUST MAKE IT OUT TO WORK , FEEL NO HOPE OF EVER FINDING LOVE AGAIN.

[Abigail_B]

Well I’m a bit younger than you and a woman but I’ve dated in the past and will probably do so again. I know it sounds cliche but most of a relationship isn’t based on wether or not you have perfect skin, if you talk to enough people eventually you find one who feels right and you’ll click. You’re obviously a strong person if you’re making it to work every day when you’re feeling so bad, someone will recognize that but you have to see it in yourself first. It’s harder to date with an altered appearance but I know several people who have been able to and have even married.

[MICKEYJO in reply to Abigail_B]

life as i knew it is gone forever

[Mishamisha77 in reply to MICKEYJO]

Hi, just seen your post on the Changing Faces link. Are you still looking for people going through the same as you?

[MICKEYJO in reply to Abigail_B]

i need serious help ASAP

[MICKEYJO]

im so isolated

wife has divorced me on top of it all also

[Abigail_B]

I’m sorry about your wife. Though I think you can do better if she was the sort of person to get a divorce over some scars.

[MICKEYJO]

SHE SAID SHE WASN'T HAPPY ANYMORE WITH BEING MARRIED TO ME, CANT BLAME HER MY CONFIDENCE IS SHATTERED

[Abigail_B]

Have you considered therapy? It might be helpful to have someone impartial listen to what you have to say and help you through this time

[MICKEYJO in reply to Abigail_B]

NO ONE TO SHARE TIME WITH HURTS ALSO

[MICKEYJO]

COST IS UNREAL HAVE REACHED OUT TO PHOENIX SOCIETY NOT MUCH FREE HELP OUT THERE OR IN USA LIKE THE uk HAS MORE IT SEEMS, I KNOW THERE PEOPLE WORSE OFF BUT ITS HOW I FEEL ABOUT ME.

[Abigail_B]

I promise you that you can still have a normal life. Your life is not over, with time and effort you will be able to rebuild your confidence, YOU have not changed only your skin has everything that was good about you before is there. You need time to rebuild your confidence but it will come.

[Abigail_B]

The fact that there are people worse off doesn’t invalidate your pain. I really encourage you to think of this time as a mourning period, you’ve lost something and need to go through grief but it does get better

[MICKEYJO]

HOPE UR CORRECT I AFRAID OF MY FUTURE LIKE I CANT BEGIN TO EXPLAIN, I HURT INSIDE BECAUSE OF MY OUTSIDE, IM ROCKED TO THE CORE OF MY SOUL WISH I NEVER WENT TO SEE A DERMATOLOGIST EVER SUCH A MISTAKE , THEY WANT THE MONEY AND IT RUINED MY FACE FOREVER.

[Mishamisha77 in reply to MICKEYJO]

Are you still looking to connect (Changing Faces?)…saw your post but it’s from 6 years ago.

[Abigail_B]

Perhaps getting involved with a church could help. They tend to be intentionally companionate and accepting communities, could help you build confidence around people.

[MICKEYJO in reply to Abigail_B]

was going to one b4 this happened to embarrassed to be seen

[Abigail_B]

Nobody’s going to be rude to you ( would you have wanted to be the guy being rude to someone with a scar?) if anything you’ll probably be doted on to the point of mild annoyance. I really recommend going back, that community could offer you some much needed support.

[Abigail_B]

I’m really sorry but I can’t continue this convo tonight, it’s 3:00 am where I am and I need to be at biochem class at 8:15. Good luck, it WILL get better if you put effort in.

[MICKEYJO]

trying thanks

[MTTA]

I got bitten on face and a dermatologist applied me a laser to make scars less red. I was burned. Burns over scars on face. Couldnt be worse. Now instead of linear scars i have 3 highly visible from distance atrophic scars that are also hyperpigmentated. I even dont know if it is possible to correct by plastic surgery. I,m living the worst days of my life.

[Mishamisha77 in reply to MTTA]

Hi, replying to you from Changing faces website if you are still looking for someone going through something similar?

[lonely-f-1983]

Hello, I can empathise to an extent, I had rhinoplasty in 2006 and I’ve felt disfigured since, I’ve noticed I get more stares than I used to and battle depression and anxiety.

Sorry you’re suffering too.

[lonely-f-1983]

MTTA ..sorry you’re going through that, feel like I’ve been trapped in hell the past 12 years, I have 2 children so I keep going for them however I’m extremely miserable.