I have been a bit quiet on here lately as I was so busy decorating for my grandson’s, from Oz, visit. And then we picked them up in the 20th Oct and it’s been a struggle ever since
he is lovely , but his girlfriend, ( who invited herself !!!), is another story. It started well with her desperate to shop in Primark, AND Tesco and Asda strangely because she had seen TikTok’s of people buying stuff there!! 😳. So I trailed round these shops with her and she spent like a mad thing in Primark- don’t know what she was expecting in the supermarkets- and we had told her that’s what they were but she declared them boring!! We had arranged to go to several places that Charlie had asked to go to as he remembered them from when he was younger and wanted to show her. We went to Exeter and she moaned about the car journey, and the meal we paid for!!!, and then how far she had to walk round the shops, perked up in Primark and spent another £100 in seconds!! Then was “ bored” again and we ended up not showing her the historical bits that Charlie had wanted to and her headphones went in as soon as she was in the car. Plymouth a few days later was even worse. It was cold and she moaned despite not wearing clothes suitable for the weather, even though I’d warned her to, and her feet ached after about 20 mins and she dragged behind all the time so my grandson ended up trailing behind with her. We came home and again as we were pointing out the wild ponies on the moor , the old tin mines, headphones were in and no interest.
westward Ho and Weston super mare were better because she could just sit and feed money into machines and she actually seemed happy for 5 mins!! But she did wear a totally unsuitable long teeshirt and flipflops , even though we were all wearing hoodies and coats against the wind and rain.and then of course she was cold. She was carrying her cardigan and wouldn’t put it on because she gets too hot with all the walking we do!!
Charlie wanted to go to Ilfracombe and show her Verity, Damien Hirsts hideous statue, and the fudge shop and the quay etc and she said “ oh another boring place then”.
at this point I snapped and said “ I don’t know what the hell you were expecting but we live in a poor county , in a country that is in a recession, and lots of things closed in covid and haven’t reopened, because we had to wait for you to save up its winter now whereas Charlie could have come over in aug/ September when we have had amazing weather and more things were open” and then I went out and cried while I hung my washing up. Charlie came out to see if I was ok and said “ if her mum knew what she’d been like she’d be horrified!”
I have looked forward to him coming over for 6 years now and she has spoilt it. She speaks to him like dirt and tells him he is thick and stupid ( when she is as thick as a brick- arguing with us that humans aren’t animals or mammals 🙄) and he was destined to do really well at school until she talked him into quitting just before his exams!! He bought a new iPad over here and gave her his old one and she sulked because it only has 32gb of storage - ungrateful sod!!!
Currently they are away at Salisbury with my ex and his daughter and my other son. They went to Longleat and Festival of Lights yesterday and she moaned there was too much walking and today they are off to Stonehenge and she informed them she didn’t want to see boring crappy stones so she is staying in behind in the cottage !!!
i feel dreadful but I have so enjoyed this weekend without her here and am almost dreading their return tomorrow evening and they go back Wednesday. It’s not just me she has been rude to my son who has been driving them all over the place and paying for her meals as well as his son’s.
She’s has had free lodging, free food and still moans !!!
Sorry to moan on but it’s been such a drain that my only escape has been my running and today was no exception- it was only 30 minutes of running in the drizzle but I could feel all my tensions floating away. I saw several little bands of squirrels playing in the park on my way round and stopped to watch them and despite the rain I felt so free. I have been trying to keep up my alternate days running while they have been here as it’s just about keeping me sane. I have not managed to do my Pilates except one night when they had gone for a meal with my son, and I had my sitting room to myself so I am finding that hard too.
I keep trying to think how I can say to him “YOU are welcome anytime but please don’t bring her again” without offending him. I hate feeling like this as I had got in Lactose free milk for her and tried to cook things she’d like but she is ungrateful for everything. I’ve cooked scotch pancakes, full English with crispy bacon how she likes it , done dippy eggs and soldiers for her several times on request, got in special cereal for her and then she announces “ it’s not like proper breakfast - back home I order Hot cakes from Maccas for breakfast and they deliver it “ 🤷♀️
Such a shame !!! 😥