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Maz1103Graduate10
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One sentence....."you're not built for running are you?"...assume its because I have boobs, I'm not overweight.

Why do people think its ok to say things like that???

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HeavyFoot profile image
HeavyFootGraduate10

It’s called invalidation. It makes jealous people feel adequate.

I’m β€œnot built for running” either. Who cares?

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toHeavyFoot

Yeah you're right... just knocked the wind out of my sails a bit.

Oldgirlruns profile image
OldgirlrunsGraduate10β€’ in reply toMaz1103

I can imagine it would Maz1103! It’s absolutely not ok to say things like that about someone! I’m not sure I’m β€˜built for running’. - but that’s for me to say and ignore! If anyone else said it I’d probably want to smack’em! You crack on!

Woollyweaver profile image
WoollyweaverGraduate10

That is just soooo dumb πŸ™„. I hope you biffed them on the nose 🀬

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toWoollyweaver

The word "ar.......le" sufficed 🀣

Woollyweaver profile image
WoollyweaverGraduate10β€’ in reply toMaz1103

πŸ‘πŸ˜‚

nowster profile image
nowsterGraduate10

What does "built for running" look like? Do they look like that?

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply tonowster

Not atall no !!!

nowster profile image
nowsterGraduate10β€’ in reply toMaz1103

I'll bet they've never run at all. Making you look little in their eyes makes them feel better about themselves.

Birdlady64 profile image
Birdlady64Graduate10

"ar.......le" indeed!Something similar has happened to me a few times.

Reaction is usually shock,upset then anger and finally the realisation that they're not even worthy of provoking such responses.

Don't let them knock the wind out of your sails, be yourself and carry on doing what you're doing, for yourself. You are awesome.

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toBirdlady64

Yes exactly...thank you x

Oldfloss profile image
OldflossAdministratorGraduate10

People don't taste their words before spitting them out...pure jealousy! x

Speedy60 profile image
Speedy60Graduate10

Humans are build for long, slow running. You are a human, therefore you are built for long, slow running. Every organ in your body, from your heart to your brain, will thank you for it. Good luck xx

Frizzbomb67 profile image
Frizzbomb67Graduate10

😑😑😑😑How very rude!

Why people think they can make derogatory comments like this I do not know πŸ€”πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

You seem to be running just fine!

I'm sure I am not build for running either. I am pretty sure I am build for hanging on the couch, watching TV πŸ˜‚

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🀣🀣

Suze7 profile image
Suze7

It would be so lovely if people like this didn’t affect how one feels but like you, I would feel really upset and deflated by such a comment. No one who does and can run would make such a comment as they would know how hard it is to actually get out running so I agree with other posts that it’s jealousy. I guess the positive is that you’re making strangers (in all senses) feel so jealous that they can’t keep their jealous comments inside. Good for you!

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GailXrunning

So sorry to hear that you’ve had to experience that awful comment while running. And I hope that the solidarity from everyone here will help heal the scars it leaves. You are a runner. You have had the courage to start running; the dedication to continue. You are amazing. You will be even more amazing. Go run 2022!

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Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toGailXrunning

Yes, lovely support from this group. I'm over it now πŸ™‚

GailXrunning profile image
GailXrunningβ€’ in reply toMaz1103

πŸ‘

buzzards profile image
buzzardsGraduate10

Just plain rudeness. 😑😑 You are doing something positive for your health and wellbeing and they are just jealous. Keep doing what you're doing. πŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

Lizcanrun profile image
LizcanrunGraduate10

Eejits! (I'm being polite!)Glad you're over it now. I expect they thought they were hilarious... Not built for comedy 🀣

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Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toLizcanrun

🀣

Teresa1632 profile image
Teresa1632Graduate10

Ah, the poor arrogant fool. Take a look at the runners at every race and park run. We are all sizes and shapes, we are all built for running.It reminds me of a relative who scoffed at me when I said I run 5ks. "Not worth it, I wouldn't do less than 10k in a race" Not long after I was in my first 10k race, so was he. (I should also point out, he is 20 years younger and over a foot taller). He shot off like he was in the Olympics, and I ran my own race. At 9k, I spotted him up front, and going verrry slowly. And I reeled him in. He had cramp apparently. "Great fun this run" says I, and ran on. A few yards from the finish line, I heard him come running up behind me. So I broke into a sprint, and crossed the line seconds in front if him. I was like a dying dog, and about to throw up, but oh, it was worth it!

You'll get your chance to reply...with a medal and a finish line photo. The s@#t!

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Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toTeresa1632

That's a great story...we'll done you ! Last laugh!!

Sandraj39 profile image
Sandraj39Graduate10β€’ in reply toTeresa1632

πŸ’ͺ🀣🀣! Well done you!

Roxdog profile image
RoxdogGraduate10

Trying to close people down like this is so awful. I'm so sorry you experienced such rudeness.

dijep profile image
dijepGraduate10

As I read your post I just wanted to tell them to f*** off. Some people are just awful and will never get the enjoyment out of life that us runners do.

Keep on doing what you're doing x πŸ‘

Beachcomber66 profile image
Beachcomber66Graduate10

πŸ™‚ Time to forget this idiot and move on; they are not worth a moment of your attention. πŸ‘

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toBeachcomber66

I'm over it !😁

Beachcomber66 profile image
Beachcomber66Graduate10β€’ in reply toMaz1103

πŸ‘ πŸ™‚

Cmoi profile image
CmoiGraduate10

Oh Maz1103 , surely you've noticed that all proper runners are built exactly the same? Usain Bolt and Mo Farah, for example. Or Paula Radcliffe and Shelly-Anne Fraser-Pryce. All from the same Playmobil mould.

I'm raging that anyone would dare to be so rude and undermine you in this way. If you'll be encountering them again, tell them to come back when they can run like you can. Then comment that they're clearly not built for intelligence, kindness, or manners.

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Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toCmoi

Yes I will !! Not worth wasting energy over. I was just gobsmacked for a while. Over it now !

I've had comments like that being a lady with a large chest. My sports bra is good at holding them still but makes them look even bigger! I normally shout back they must be jealous or if I can do it with big boobs they would find it a doddle, normally shuts them up

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply tofedupoffeelingtired

Great idea 🀣

Sandraj39 profile image
Sandraj39Graduate10

Well I think the comments here say it all! They are the one with the problem…we runners come in all shapes and sizes and that is the beauty of it. Run on and be proud!πŸ™‚

Jell6 profile image
Jell6Graduate10

We're all built for running, it's just that so many don't. Personally I have decided that I'm not built for speed πŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

Health2020 profile image
Health2020Graduate10

Why do people think they can say things like that? I’m not built for running either BUT it can be easier said than done - look at the facts: how many runs have you completed? How far is your longest (distance or time) run? Ask yourself some questions like that and then you’ll have the answer - you can run (probably further than ar. le!) you are a πŸƒβ€β™€οΈ runner x

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Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toHealth2020

Exactly..... even if I thought something like that I would never say it. I was brought up to be kind !

Golf2106 profile image
Golf2106

How rude. I’m also β€œnot built for running” Also heard the black eye jokes!? It’s usually other people who wish they were doing it and aren’t xx

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FionamagsGraduate10

I don't know either. Don't let it get to you Maz - you are the runner and you know it! You don't need to qualify for Team GB to enjoy what you do...

Elfe5 profile image
Elfe560minGraduate

So presumably this person was:

a. Not a runner.

b. Lacking β€œcourtesy filters” or had quaffed too much 🍷 🍾 πŸ₯‚!!

You ARE the bigger person - enjoy your lovely running. πŸ˜„

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toElfe5

Correct on all 3 points!! X

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Elfe560minGraduateβ€’ in reply toMaz1103

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Ooooooh dear! Enjoy the last laugh then! πŸ˜„

Maz1103 profile image
Maz1103Graduate10β€’ in reply toElfe5

I will !! X

Teacher23 profile image
Teacher23

These sort of people never fail to shock me. Thats a stupid thing to say"not built for running". It doesnt even make sense. People who say things like that are usually projecting their own hang ups and insecurities. You just carry on !

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CowladyrunningGraduate10

Ooof what a thing to say. Sorry you came across such a person. Just be very smug that you're proving them very wrong.

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sofaspud

What an idiot. Keep running!

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