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I've lost yet another neighbour and so it goes on,

sometimes this continual loss of people we have grown to like and care for seems never ending.

Maybe it's expected at this time of year, it certainly seems to be more than other times.

Anyhow, how's your week been and more importantly, how are you really?

Chloe

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Turnipgirl

Today and yesterday I decided to stay in my pyjamas after having had an extremely hectic week and I have really enjoyed it taking time for myself to relax and I don't feel I have missed out on anything as the weather hasn't been very nice so it's worked out nice having a quiet weekend in staying in pyjamas!

I got given some free savoy cabbages from the lady downstairs who had some leftover and some free bread as well as its the little things that can make a big difference!

Yesterday I made cabbage with fish which I really enjoyed!

Last Sunday after watching the news I became extremely upset after they were mouthing off about the cost of living thing but thankfully no upsetting news this weekend!

Next Saturday is an evening and a supper out to Puss in boots at the village hall which I am looking forward to!

It's swimming tomorrow which I am looking forward to and eating up the free cabbages!

In myself I feel a lot better after having spent yesterday and today at home in my pyjamas and will be more than ready to resume tomorrow morning!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toTurnipgirl

Well what a lovely relaxing weekend Turnipgirl

Positive week ahead I hope x

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Caza

I haven’t had a great week tbh. Can’t seem to lift myself out of this fog I’m in. I saw my friend for lunch this week which was nice. Her husband died in July, he’d been ill for a couple of yrs. Does that make a difference 🤷‍♀️. She’s doing incredibly well. I’m continuing to see my brother in law & finding it incredibly hard & depressing. He’s now not eating & sleeping most of the time. He’s resigned to being in a place he really doesn’t want to be in. Given up 😞.

I went to a tap dancing class a one off my friend was taking it. I used to tap dance (very badly) a good few yrs back. It was good to reminisce in a way but life was so good back then & now it just isn’t which is so sad. So I’m plodding through doing what’s expected of me but not feeling it.

Sorry to hear of your neighbour Chloe. X

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Turnipgirl in reply toCaza

I remember back in May when one of my neighbours died and even though I wasn't surprised as he was terminally ill it was still a shock though!

It was 10.30pm on the Saturday evening and i had come back from the Folk festival at Tredegar House and the police were at the flats and I just knew it was bad news and I was right and the out of hours doctor came to certify the death as well.

Part of me was glad he was no longer suffering but still that was upsetting coming back to that!

I had mentioned to the housing officer my concerns about the neighbour but had told her not to say I had said I was worried for him in case people thought I was being nosy and interfering and she said no I wasn't being nosy and interfering and how that's to do with petty things is being nosy and telling tales say complaining over a parking space to them!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toTurnipgirl

Yes, it was a shock for you I remember and you definitely did the right thing voicing your concerns x

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

Nowadays I feel he is now in a better place and I am glad he is out of pain and no longer suffering.

The council had claimed he was getting a ground floor flat nearby and then at the last minute no he wasn't which was a dirty trick and a lesson to us all that when things are promised make sure you get them in writing then they can't say we'll I never promised anything when it's all there in black and white and yes they did!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toCaza

Sorry to read you’re still very down Caza

I can’t help thinking that in my case it’s because there’s been so many people I know who have passed this year. It’s bound to have affect my spirit, not that that exclamation helps!

But you’ve had such a huge loss in your life, to then watch others suffering is enough to affect how you are feeling. It’s so hard to pick yourself up I understand that and feel for you x

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kenster1Volunteer

sorry yo hear about your neighbour Chloe my street has lost most of the original families now only a handful left.One of our customers who collects food from our charity passed away as well only found out today every Monday he`d ask me for grapes for himself I`ll miss seeing him around.

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chloe40Administrator in reply tokenster1

Yes, it’s hard to bear kenster1

Pleased you’re still volunteering x take care

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

I did volunteering in a charity shop many years ago which I really enjoyed when Baby the cat really was a little kitten!

Baby will be 21 in April!

Today here is an interview for 10.30am for a nursery cooks job and then a phone interview at 1pm for a reception job.

Friday just gone I was due to have an interview at a place in the city centre and thankfully I took loads of things to do as I always do when I have booked appointments just in case it doesn't go ahead and no the appointment didn't happen and I waited for them and rang them to see if they were OK but no answer so after 30 mins I left and went to the funfair and the Christmas market so the bus ticket wasn't wasted as it was a valuable lesson not to go near that employer again!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toTurnipgirl

Wow21, that’s fantastic!

Sounds like the job for you Turnipgirl

Really hope it goes well x

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

Thankfully I have done all my interviews now so I can have a nice rest and I went away from both of them feeling i had given them both my very best which is all you can do really!

If they don't come to anything I won't be heartbroken about it!

Today it was lunch at home with pasta and sauce and some homemade cabbage soup which I enjoyed as cabbage is extremely good for you that i got free from the lady downstairs along with some loaves of bread that I put in the freezer to use in due course!

Decided not to go swimming today due to those interviews but I have booked to go tomorrow instead!

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chloe40Administrator in reply toTurnipgirl

Well done for making the effort, you’ll find the right job very soon x

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Turnipgirl in reply tochloe40

This morning I feel lovely and refreshed after not doing that swim yesterday afternoon and staying in to do that phone interview at 1pm and saved money by having pasta and sauce for lunch at home rather than lunch out as originally planned and carried on with job applications as well!

It's swimming this morning as planned and it's good news as I can tick off the being terrified over the crowded morning buses off the list as done and draw a line through it as now it feels like second nature when I do them whereas 18 months ago I was terrified of them and wouldn't go near them!

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