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terrible.

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have insomnia just now although been quartering my medication for ages with not a lot of issues but since Thursday I haven`t slept apart from a couple of hours on Friday.last night was really bad crazy thoughts in my head.before that yesterday my Mrs had the kids out and most of the other kids had been playing on my kids trampoline I seen a young boy slip through a hole in it but at his side another young guy was tearing away at it with both hands.I never saw how much he tore didn`t even know if it was damaged already I asked my Mrs when she got home and she said it had a rip about 10 inches or so maybe a bit bigger but the rip I seen was about half the bottom of the trampoline.2 young kids about 4 relatives of the boy who ripped it had still been playing on it and if anyone had an accident no doubt my Mrs would have got hounded.my son played on it on Saturday night and it was fine but this boy must have made it worse.at my wits end between everything we have went through recently and beyond and insomnia doesn`t help.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Hi Kenny,

Really sorry you're having such a tough time. I suspect the 'crazy thoughts in your head' are due to lack of sleep, nothing worse Kenny.

That's rotten of them to damage your children's trampoline and have the neck to play on it!

Kenny, can you firstly take the dose you were prescribed and then phone your Dr asap, your medication needs reviewing I think or you may have reduced too much, please check, don't suffer like this<3

Please let us know how it goes.

Chloe

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phoned today but only doing phone consultations to try again in the morning.the little boy in question was my young sons best friend till all the adults took part in an all day gossip session about my Mrs and ever since that day they more or less stopped playing its a shame my kids are good young boys.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Kenny, most appointments are by telephone at the moment so please accept a consultation this way and have a chat with the dr, who may ask to see you, nor ideal but necessary, been through this myself and it's not so bad.

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I don't mind the phone appointments and if they need to see you they invite you into the surgery.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Any luck with Dr Kenny ?

I enjoyed our usual zoom dinner party on Friday night with my friends where we discussed rearranging the cancelled events from earlier on in the year for another day, I enjoyed a Saturday night video night and Sunday was OK and then in the evening I had an upset.

What it was that caused the upset was I had received a phone call off my mother saying how they had all had a family dinner and I hadnt been invited and I was ever so upset and I was in floods of tears on Sunday night after that over being excluded and my husband was very kind saying how its their problem not mine and had supported me after I had slammed the phone down as I was ever so upset!

This evening he asked me was I feeling better about it and I said yes I was and he says how crying does you good and I saw my sister in law earlier on after we went and got the cat her usual Monday fish treat and said what had happened and she said how that was spiteful to do that and how anyone would have been in tears! She says its the spiteful ones with a problem not me and advised me not to ring them for a while and to wait until I have calmed down!

Back in 2014 I had lashed out after they had said about everyone bar me going to a cottage in north wales and how they were going to see other relatives bar myself and an aunt and uncle who they don't like and I was ever so upset and had lashed out after hearing that as I was hurt more than being deliberately malicious as it hurts to be excluded.

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Oh dear cat girl, I'm so sorry you've been upset like this, that's so unkind and the last thing you need.

Really thankful you have such an understanding husband, that really helps.

I'm inclined to agree with your sister-in-law and distance yourself a little, you never know, you may receive an apology but try not to react.

Chloe <3

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One of my friends said how where there's no sense there's no feeling which is very true.

What I will do going forward now I have calmed down is only ring when I really have nothing better to do and if they ask I will say I forgot due to being busy which won't exactly be lies!

At a previous job in catering the line manager there said how that kind of behaviour is rude and there's no need for it and he had asked me why did they do it and I had said about having an attitude problem and had given him their phone number to ask them themselves what the problem was!

My husband said how being excluded is hurtful and was very good last night.

I'm still busy job hunting and trying my best which is all I can do really as I don't control the economy, who else applies for jobs and the covid situation.

Baby the cat is well and enjoyed her fish this afternoon. When we talk to her she answers us with a meow!

On the video calls baby would get the last word with a meow!

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