I've relaxed, which is unusual !
Not cooked in this hot weather !
and actually stayed cool, so, I doing okay this weekend.
What about you?
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Hi everyone - what have you done that makes you feel good this weekend?
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This morning I went to open day at animal sanctuary.so many cats needing to be homed. Was sooo tempted but still to raw from losing my beloved cat.rest of the day stayed indoors trying to stay cool x
Today I had a delicious roast dinner at the pub along with my sister in law and sat out in the beer garden there and made some plans to go out next week like outdoor swimming this Friday coming which is something nice to look forward to and decided that I am ready to start going on weekends away again in due course as well!
Yesterday it was a hike in the Gower which I really enjoyed and an extremely steep hill up to the nature reserve there which was beautiful and a picnic lunch which saved us a few pounds as those places there like to rip you off with their prices!
At the ice cream shop it was £3.40 for a single cone and I had asked at the counter for a single 99 and had received just a flake and I explained again and got the ice cream after that!
Thankfully I saw the funny side of things but there have been times when I have become extremely infuriated when either simple 5 minute jobs turn into palavers and also when simple requests do as well!
In due course we are hoping to visit the Deep in Hull and plan to stay over there for a few days as I have wanted to have visited there for ages so maybe nows the right time to do so?
We decided that when we do visit that I won't be telling my mother until we are actually there or after its happened and it's a done deal and there's nothing she can do about it except whine and complain!
When I moved last year she wasn't told until the move had been done and dusted and there wasn't a thing she could do about it except whine and complain!
Another packed weekend Turnipgirl
Lots to look forward to as well.
A good deal of sightseeing to, keep cool today and take care x
Today I decided on an early start and got some job applications out of the way and once they are done my conscience is clear!
It's an appointment with the job centre this afternoon at 3pm on video which will be done at home where it's nice and private!
It's an early swim this morning and then an early arrival home and it's lunch at home today which is fair enough!
Last night I had a nosy online about places to stay at in due course for weekends away!
kenster1Volunteer
Didn't have a great Saturday to be honest with you.
Here to listen, bless ya 🦊x
I remember back in the September of 2022 returning from leave and a friend at work had asked me had I had a nice week off and I honestly had to say no I hadn't and told her the truth that I was being evicted and looking for a new place to live as that was the case!
Up until then I had just said that I was moving because I needed a bigger place as I hadn't been ready to tell the truth!
It took 10 months until I was finally thrown out of that place and extremely stressful!
It was a life lesson in not dismissing uneasy feelings as silly and paranoid unless you have proof that yes they really are and then you can forget about them!
Here it's a nice early start with job applications and swimming and then the job centre appointment on camera at 3pm!
Yes, it’s been awful for you but you are bouncing back!
Good luck with the interview today and have a lovely swim this afternoon.
x
I'm still friends with that lady from the pharmacy who was good to me when I told her the truth and said I was getting evicted and she had been disgusted!
That lady had resigned from there without anything else to go to the month after I left as she was disgusted with the poor way it was run and now cares for her elderly parents and she is in her 60s herself so not a youngster!
I’d had a busy week so decided that I’d take Friday off. Apart from giving the dog a good walk twice I sat & read the whole day. We had leftover pasta. Very relaxing it’s ages since I’ve done that.
Saturday was shopping etc… then in the evening we’d been invited to a birthday garden party. I really didn’t want to go not knowing hardly anyone there. Women always seem to want to know how many children you have & grandchildren both sore subjects for me. Anyway I made myself mix had nice conversations with a few people. Managed to swerve questions. The cake was absolutely amazing 😋. Was pleased to get home though put my PJs on large glass of red & a pat on the back.
Sunday got off to a good start & then went rapidly downhill. I’d invited myself for coffee at my eldest son’s house. Needed to give him some things. Found out that my daughter in laws family were all going round for a BBQ. Can’t remember the last time we were invited 😞. So went home feeling down then got a text to say that a friend who’d had a bad fall the previous day had died. That’s 3 in just over a month. It’s really unsettling me. I have no fear of dying but dying with things unfinished is making me anxious totally irrational I know. My wills written my funeral arrangements & payment done. Why should I care about the rest. A neighbour phoned me really upset about something spoke to her at length managed to calm her down. Didn’t cook drank loads & went out like a light.
Oh dear Caza
It sure started well and you made a great effort under the circumstances.
Real shame about lack of invitation to bbq, that’s a very sore point for me too!
Isn’t it just horrible when we lose so many people in a short period of time, sorry to read this x
I hope you you feel better for having made your arrangements, stay calm x
I wonder if they have any idea how hurtful it is.
We’re fully housetrained I promise & have impeccable table manners (well almost) we mix & listen don’t drink too much or wear or do outrageous things 🤷♀️
I would be devastated if I thought there was an actual reason for it Caza
x
Back in March I was devastated when I found out that my mother and sister were going on a trip to Japan together when I never got the same opportunities and I had a good old cry after I had found out which helped!
It hurts doesn't it when others get opportunities that you sadly lost out on!
After I had my cry I decided not to let myself be eaten up with anger and resentment over things like that and let it drop.
Thing is with people like that where there's no sense there's no feeling either!
I managed to get my father out of bed and into wheelchair to sit on front porch and feel the sun on his face. I was hot and sweating with the effort of it but to see him smiling, eyes closed, face up to the sun made the effort worthwhile. I know he’ll be exhausted by it today but he won’t regret it, I don’t either. My feel good factor this weekend. Today, I’m not moving far from a fan, a cold drink and keeping my dogs as cool as I can. Take care 🦊x
That’s really nice. Simple pleasures & one that maybe I take for granted.
Dogs this weather are a worry. Mines had his walk it rained here the rest of the day he’ll be kept cool & maybe a short walk this evening
Rain…..I’m in Essex and it’s just hit 31 degrees! House is cool with fans but like opening the oven door when I opened the back door! Washed duvet and spare pillows tho so making the most of that, dogs ok so far but no walkies today! They’re not asking either! My late husband woukd have been out there all day!, bbq breakfast, dinner n tea and checking the white line where his watch would have been! Bless him. Take care everyone 🦊x
It rained just for 15 mins. Now 34. Way too hot for my big lad. I might take him out a bit later I’ll see. As soon as the sun goes down I’ll hose the garden & him.
My sister was exactly the same. Even setting up the ironing in the garden 🙄. She never burnt. I’ve had skin cancer so pretty careful these days & don’t much like the heat anymore
My daughter usually rings me about half 5 in the morning when she’s walking her two. I really look forward to that call. Take care 🦊x
That’s caring & sharing for you!!!
That was so thoughtful Bingofox007
What a difference you made to your father, lovely.
Yes, keeping cool is going to be hard today x
My husbands birthday, so had dinner out with our daughter and 2 granddaughters. Lovely to be together.
Hi Chloe,
I am sorry about the heat.
It is winter here.
I've reached out to family and friends.
Hi Nathalie99
Thank you!
It seems so awful to moan about the sunshine but this is unusual here, though I know you are probably used to sunshine but possibly less intense,
Take care
x
You are right, Chloe.I think it depends on what we are used to. Some places have really intense sun but it's easier if they have everything air conditioned.
Take care x
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