What gives you strength to get through each day?

[chloe40]

Perhaps the support of a friend or member of the family, or perhaps a group you attend or volunteer with?

Support seems to come from the least expected places in my experiences.

Chloe

[kenster1 Volunteer]

not sure Chloe how I`ve got this far I suppose I just woke up each day and hoped the best. now I have my kids and Mrs they helped me after my dad died and other family members but with my mum I probably shouldn`t have got through it with my son I`ll never know although a couple of friends supported me in the beginning.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Hi @kenny

Sadly, you’ve been through so many sad losses in the short time I’ve known you, that I can’t imagine how you got through them, except you’ve got a strong will and good people around you and that has been your support.

I admire you kenster1 x

[Caza]

not sure Chloe, I’ll have to have a think then come back to you.

[Caza]

My go too tool is alcohol, not recommending it. At the beginning when my daughter died I just couldn’t sleep. The pain was immense. I did find that alcohol helped me it helped me to relax. I’m a lightweight when it comes to drinking so fortunately it’s done me no harm.

Friends well you get to know who your friends are at a time like this. One person who was a work colleague stepped forward big time. She is now one of my bestest friends. I had others who have stuck with me & one I now know had to have counciling to help her to help me that’s true friendship. Lots fell by the roadside & ran for the hills. Who could blame them. My sister was an enormous help, I feel so guilty that her last couple of yrs with us were filled by my grief.

Groups online compassionate friends. Met four women who were going through the same as me & all were at the same timescale. We became firm friends & meet up occasionally. They were a lifeline & still are

& of course exercise structure & for me keeping busy.

Without all of the above I would have gone under & nearly did.

On a positive note those friends who stuck by me & myself had a fantastic day seeing ABBA Voyage & a meal at the weekend. We had such fun. So life does go on & you can enjoy life again all be it a different way. You just have to be open to it but that takes time.

[Turnipgirl in reply to Caza]

Thing is true friends will stand by you no matter how bad the circumstances are!

[Caza in reply to Turnipgirl]

I agree but some just can’t handle it. I don’t bare any anger towards them anymore. I certainly did at the time but as they say I Let it Go x

[chloe40 Administrator]

I think we all need a crutch initially Caza whatever that may be x

Yes, friends come and go but you do seem to have had some wonderful friends and I'm so pleased you do.

What a great way of celebrating those friendships, a night out which you all thoroughly enjoyed, how lovely x