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Im broken hearted never experienced such pain . How on earth do i carry on?

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hi sory to hear about your loss thoughts and prayers are with you and the family and friends of your husband.god bless and take care.

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workinternet in reply to kenster1

Thank you lovely to share our pain all of us luv hugs x

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bikergrove

Its normal to grieve the loss of someone you loved. The pain is terrible but given time you will come through this, but at the moment it is very raw and new. My deepest sympathy to you on your loss, will be thinking of you.

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workinternet in reply to bikergrove

Thank you helps to share our pain luv hugs x

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Dolphin14

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take the time you need to grieve.

It's hard to absorb it all. My heart is with you and your family during this difficult time

🐬

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workinternet in reply to Dolphin14

Thank you helps to share our pain luv hugs x

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Floxxy

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. Sending love and hugs. X

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GonnaMissDaddy

I'm so very sorry for your loss and the terribly hard and devastating road you were on with him before he passed. Please consider you probably have PTSD as do most of us who've endured this terrible hardship. It was my Dad who had the psp. I can only imagine how lost one would feel to lose a spouse and to this disease. You have every right to grieve but please remember to be gentle with yourself, take care of your health, remember you're still here for a PURPOSE and that purpose will find you if it hasn't already. Also remember, your dear husband would want you to live a good life for as long as you can. Get plenty of rest and call on loved ones who are often afraid to contact you because they don't know what to say. There's not a lot that can be said but just talking (about anything) with your people can help. Youre in my prayers. This will get better, one day or year at a time.

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workinternet in reply to GonnaMissDaddy

Thank you for your kind supportive words helps to talk definately kuv hugs x

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Luv* ....spell mistake above

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Hello @workinternet

I'm not sure if your loss was very recent ? I can only assume so.

The shock of losing a partner is immense, we don't know which way to turn, what to do next and how on earth we will carry on.

I know it's hard to think straight but it's so important that you look after yourself, sometimes we forget to eat and can't sleep as our heads are whirling. Slow down, give yourself time to think, difficult as this is. Never make big decisions during this period and try to reach out to someone who can help with any immediate worries you., even if they say nothing, a good friend will be happy to just 'be there' for you.

One step at a time {{{hugs}}}

We're here for you

Chloe <3

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workinternet in reply to chloe40

Thank you for your kind words and support luv hugs x

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klr31

So sorry for your loss. 🙏🌹🙏

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workinternet in reply to klr31

Thank you for lovely reply x

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workinternet

Thank you for your support nice to share the pain luv hugs x

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Caza

I’m sorry to read this. Is his death recent? Be kind & gentle with yourself. Healthy food rest etc. i haven’t had to face the death of a husband. But having lost loved ones for me was getting enough exercise fresh air ( always helped me sleep) & being around friends & family.

Big hugs x

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workinternet in reply to Caza

Yes recent im empty cold lost lonely tearful i cany bear it without him

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Caza in reply to workinternet

I feel your pain in reading this. My close friends husband died way too soon just four years ago. He was her soulmate.

So what can I tell you. She is beginning to laugh again, she’s had a few holidays trips out etc.. she’s even got herself a job. It really hasn’t been easy & she still has bad days. Her eyes still have that haunted look at times but she is living again.

I hope this helps. Take care x

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Celestialbird

It’s one of the worst feelings you will ever experience. I lost my dad a few years ago, and another close relative two days ago, and I’m going through the same pain, even more so. It takes time, and you’ll never forget, but it does get better with time.

I’m sorry for your loss.

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Dalipup

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my husband, my soulmate, two and a half years ago. There is no loss like the loss of your partner and your best friend. I can only imagine the loss of a child to be worse . There are days where you will wonder how to carry on, but every morning you wake again i found for me, after giving myself six months to even breathe again i sought out ways to release the pain for me i began walking this began slowly but became working on 10 k walks it was hard to start but the strength and power i felt once i really increased the miles felt good. When i feel the anxiety and pain building in my body i go walk it out of my system. I have kept journals to my husband from a week after he died. Having the conversations with him through my pen that we would have had over dinner. I also began painting pictures. I use acrylics and follow on line paint classes. There are many out there. The one thing i know my husband would never want for me is to quit living, so even when its hard i go to dinner with family or friends. I laugh, and dance and sing and i cry every day still. One day at a time. One hour at a time is all you can do at times. Many people say the wrong things. Many people want to compare this loss to the loss of a parent. Ive lost both of my parents and this loss doesnt compare. This is a loss of who you are as part of a couple understand people who have not had this loss cannot know the depth of it. You will carry on. You will have weeks where you are so much better then fall back to a month of hurt. There is no easy answer and no easy fix. These are the things i found helped me. I will keep you in my prayers

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Lizzy-m

Hi, how are you doing ? I lost my hubby recently, it's horrendous 😢

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