Mom passed away from metastatic breast cancer that metastasized to her bones

[Lunas-mom]

It hasn't been a week yet and I am having a rough time dealing with my Mom's passing. I keep hoping that I can get through just one day without tears running down my face. I miss my mom

[kenster1 Volunteer]

hi welcome aboard so sorry to hear of your beloved mothers passing.have you got support from other family members and friends.it`s really ok to cry I still shed some tears for my mum she died in 09.counselling will be a way to help you understand your grief and loss actually planning going back myself.god bless and take care.

[Lunas-mom in reply to kenster1]

Thank you! I'm going through this basically alone. I keep my tears to myself. Unfortunately my husband is no support and doesn't understand what I am going through. I am going to seek counseling because I feel so lost. I am so sorry that you lost your beloved Mum! We are all here for each other. I guess it's a day by day process. I hope you have a blessed day and take care my friend.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello there Lunas-mom

A very warm welcome to our Community.

I’m so sorry to read of the very sad loss of your dear Mom from such an awful illness.

It’s such early days that I would be worried if you weren’t crying, so please don’t try to hold those tears back. You need to express your sorrow and you’ll feel like this for some time. You’re emotions will be up and down and sadly this is what happens when we lose someone we love.

I do hope you have someone to support you, family members will themselves be grieving, so hopefully you have a close friend by your side.

There is always someone here to answer your posts and chat with, so please know we will support you too.

Sending love and {{{hugs}}}

Chloe x

[Lunas-mom in reply to chloe40]

Thank you so much for your support. I'm dealing with this by myself. One knows what I am going through. I keep my tears to myself. I am having a rough time dealing with the sudden burst of tears out of the blue. I am trying to be gentle with myself. It has been one week today and it seems to be getting harder to deal with the grief.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Lunas-mom]

Hi Lunas-mom

You’re very welcome!

It really is hard when we suddenly burst into tears, it can just happen out of the blue, which just shows that our emotions know what we need, so try not to be afraid and let those tears go, you need to x

Take one day at a time, everyone understands.

You may like to think about making a memory box, which you can fill with photos, trinkets, cards, anything that reminds you of your dear Mom x

Chloe

[Lunas-mom in reply to chloe40]

I love the idea of a memory box! Thank you sending hugs your way

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Lunas-mom]

You're very welcome Lunas-mom Take good care of yourself.

<3

[Marnie22]

Just wanted to send you hugs. I will be thinking of you. 🌸

[Lunas-mom in reply to Marnie22]

Thank you so much

[Hidden]

It's still early days and fresh and raw at the moment and crying when you need to does you good.

My dad died a few weeks ago and its still quite raw.

Take your time and go at your own pace.

[Lunas-mom in reply to Hidden]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard. If you need someone to talk to I am here. Sending healing prayers and hugs 🤗

[Hidden in reply to Lunas-mom]

Last Sunday night here all hell broke loose and I was screaming and crying all because I had wanted to have changed a date and time on a grocery order but the site broke down and it wouldn't let me and I just screamed in sheer frustration and burst into tears!

I talked to a good friend about this who said no my reaction wasn't silly and overreacting and how I had gone through a lot and how its seemingly silly things like that which bring out the tears and anger and perhaps I had needed to have let it out when that happened!

Its frustrating though when you want to do something simple and it turns into a right palaver!

[Lunas-mom in reply to Hidden]

I had a similar situation like that as well and the poor guys on the other end of the text message got pure hell from me all because my Mom passed away and I was emotional wreak and had little sleep. The worst part was all I wanted to know was if there was satellite store where I could my pay bill in person. Afterwards I felt so bad.

[Hidden in reply to Lunas-mom]

Did you ring them up and apologise after you had calmed down and explain what had set you off?

You find most people are understanding if you apologise and explain once you have calmed down and are thinking more rationally.

I nearly shouted down the phone the other week after I had buried my father and had got the news that I hadn't got the job I had gone for that Friday and the feedback had been ridiculous and I had nearly shouted down the phone how the world doesn't revolve around you and your stupid job!

That's not lies as no the world doesn't revolve around any of us and does what it pleases regardless!

That's it though it's the trivial things like that which set you off and feel like the world has ended and no they aren't trivial when you think about what you have been through.

With me last Sunday it was in the privacy of home that happened as the computer had crashed so no one was shouted at down the phone or anything!

On early May bank holiday I had shouted down the phone and slammed it down when a place rang me up and tried to manipulate me into a phone interview on the spot and the phone had gone and I had just come back from a workout and I picked it up and had shouted at them no I didn't want to talk to them about an interview and had told them to get lost and had slammed the phone down on them!

I did feel bad though for having done that once I had had time to calm down and think things over!

[momofjust2boys]

I am so so sorry! My mom passed from ovarian cancer. Somedays are good and some days are bad. I read grief is like losing a limb. You are still able to continue, but a part of you is missing. Please keep posting here.