Loss

[Mac_meister]

I've still not processed loosing my mum back in Oct 2020 not grieved cried...might sound harsh but I'm scared if I do I will become and end up in the gutter so I'm trying to stay strong but God help me its bloody hard....if anyone can help just by chatting would help especially if u have been threw the same..

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hi Mac_meister A very warm welcome to Bereavement Care & Share, we're very pleased you have joined us.

I'm so sorry to read of the loss of your Mum, it's still early days and totally understandable that you still haven't processed your loss. You've come to the right place!

I honestly believe you need to let some of your pent up emotions out Mac, crying is okay you know, please don't be scared to have a cry, several in fact. You won't end up in the gutter and you don't need to be strong either, we're all vulnerable when we lose a loved one but you have to give yourself time. Your emotions will be up and down and it's hard but with the right support you'll get through this Mac, you really will.

Have you any other support or family you can share your grief with? maybe you could consider Bereavement counselling? many of us do.

I'm tagging Greyone who has been in a similar situation and Soul19 I'm sure he will reply too.

Keep in touch

Chloe

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I have found crying does me good as well every so often.

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss and its not been very long either.

I have found that crying helps to relieve the pain.

If you ignore grief now it will come out in other ways.

[Greyone]

Hi Mac_meister and welcome. I can understand how you feel. I lost my mother nearly 4 years ago and for the first year failed to acknowledge my emotional needs or ask for help. But you have certainly come to the right place.

My first port of call was cruse bereavement care. I have spoken with them twice and have recommend them to many people. Do please give them a call on 0808 808 1677 and here are there open hours:

Monday: 9.30am-5pm

Tuesday: 9.30am-8pm

Wednesday: 9.30am-8pm

Thursday: 9.30am-8pm

Friday: 9.30am-5pm

Saturday and Sunday: 10am -2pm

I would not be afraid to cry in the company of someone you can trust even just on your own.

This is a difficult time for me with mothers day and her anniversary soon. I set aside time to remember mum and cry for her as i did this Sunday.

I would encourage you to give Cruse a call tomorrow morning. They are wonderful people and help with there calm and compassionate manner.

If you are feeling very worried about this this evening i would also recommend speaking to The Samaritans on 116 123 they are available 24 hours/day. They were my first port of call and help me in the first instance and referred me to Cruse.

I do so hope both these recommendations are of help if you feel you need to talk tonight.

Do please come back here any time and we are here to listen , help and support you and hope to here form you soon. Good Luck

G1

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

Thank you Greyone I hope Mac_meister feels able to message you here, it helps enormously!

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