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How will you celebrate the Mothers Day?

For many of us it's still very hard to cope with the loss of our Mum, after all, she was a very important person in your life.

I am going to write a letter to mine and stand it by her photo, and in a few days I will put that into my memory box.

Chloe <3

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I usually get some new ornaments and go down a couple of days before and tidy up but haven`t this year I might go down today instead of tomorrow if the weather stays ok still got flowers though for my mum and my son.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

Of course you have Kenny! Yes, you may need to pick your time but I'm sure you'll find the right moment.

<3

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GoGo_JoJo

I hate it. Woke up after bad dreams, spent all morning hearing my mothers critical voice tearing me apart. I'm out trying to re-center myself running in Nature, can't stop crying. The child in me still wants to know why she couldn't just be nice, why she couldn't just see and appreciate what she had.

Thank god I'm working tomorrow.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo

Oh GoGo_JoJo

How I feel for you, you're really hurting {{{hugs}}} and I wish I could make it better for you.

Sadly, not all Mothers are wonderful but let me say you are a wonderful woman with a good heart and she should be proud of yourself, I am !

<3<3

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GoGo_JoJo in reply to chloe40

Thank you Chloe x normally I can believe that, and I thought I'd heard the last of that critical voice, I'd done a great job of building myself up. Sometimes its just harder to keep it at bay. I'll bounce back. 😘

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chloe40Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo

You will Jo, amazing how these things tend to crop when we least expect it! I'll say no more <3I hope you had a good run and clear your head.

Stay positive <3

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She couldn't be nice because she had an attitude problem which was her issue not yours!

Last night I had a chat with my friends about getting put down one afternoon after a visit to a dessert shop by my father all because I had eaten a double ice cream cone and he had claimed that that in itself had weighed the family car down on the return from the place as it had supposedly made me put on weight instantly and I had burst into tears and I was 13 at the time!

One friend says it annoys her intensely when people who are overweight tell others to lose weight!

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones is what comes to mind here!

Perhaps I could have benefitted from losing weight but that wasn't the time or place to have told me that!

Also where there's no sense there's no feeling either!

My friends said how that kind of behaviour is a form of child abuse!

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GoGo_JoJo in reply to

As an adult I can forgive her and even understand how her own dysfunctional childhood didn't teach her how to love, only that which made her look better. I do have some good early childhood memories when I was cute and made her appear such a good mum. As soon as I took any of her spotlight in any way I needed to be put back in my place with short sharp barbed remarks, each one unremarkable in itself but over time the gaslighting was so effective even on my own after leaving home the voice in my head did her job for her for a long, long time.

I am so lucky to have, and have had, wonderful people in my life who do love me, unconditionally, for all that I am.

Sadly times like these and in the run up to Christmas often, it can reignite that childish confusion and pain, no less real for its naivety.

Today I'm stronger and I'm better able to protect that sweet little girl who only ever wanted to be part of a real, and loving family. The loss of a dream, and innocence can be a very difficult grief to deal with.

Light and love to all 💖

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Zippy09

Happy Mother’s Day for my dearest Mum and others who are no longer here ❤️ I bought some lovely Tulips yesterday and have put them in a vase and this evening I will light a candle beside her photo. God Bless our Mums 🌹

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Zippy09

That's so lovely Zippy09

💗

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Sandradsn

I bought my mums favourite flowers ,they are by her photo.I went for a dog walk with my daughter which was lovely.

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