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Have you made a Memory box....

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And did it help you?

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Bigneil1

What is a memory box ?

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Hello Bigneil1 A memory box is a box you make yourself, it could be made of anything, wood, cardboard etc. Decorate it and fill it with mementoes of your loved one, photos, letters, birthday cards, perhaps a watch or other smaller items. In fact anything that reminds you of them.

Memory boxes are really helpful I think, and mine helps me to feel close to that person when I I’m feeling sad or just reflecting.

Chloe x

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Bigneil1 in reply to chloe40

Don't have much of my mum dad's stuff but certainly sounds a good idea

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sadly no my only memory box is in my head.

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And you memory is fine Kenny 1

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kenster1Volunteer in reply to chloe40

could make a small one of my son but sadly none of the photo`s are days out with me but I do have a couple of him and two of my niece`s.

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Yes, that may be nice to have for the future Kenny <3

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Caza

Yes, I have. Does it help me no. I find it much too painful.

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KT22

My best friend bought me a beautiful Memory Box. I started to put cards, letters & things in but it’s far far too painful to look at so not helpful at this time in my grief. I’ve hidden it as I’m in tears thinking that’s all I have....memories. It hurts.

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I understand that KT22 When you're ready it will be there.

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GonnaMissDaddy

When I became my Daddy's caregiver fulltime for his last 2 years, I quickly noticed some of his favorite foods my MOM made when I was a child, which his much younger 2nd wife didn't make for him after he was remarried because my dear Mom died of cancer at age 34. So all the many years later, a few decades in fact, and after I'd owned a small catering company, you can bet (as his caregiver) it was my pleasure to cook his favorites for him and boy! did I ever enjoy seeing HIM enjoy those foods! There was so little I could do to make him feel any better but food was main. So... I have some odd mementos in my memory box such as the label from the last jar of peanut butter he ate, but like some of you, I don't look at it for comfort. I only look to add to the box if I happen to find something to go in it.

Nothing brings me comfort about missing my parents except believing I'll be with them again in Heaven. However I'll always keep my mementos in hope that I live long enough for those things to bring peace and comfort instead of grim reminders.

Please know dear folks here in this group, you're always in my prayers, be well and stay safe and I pray you'll all find happiness again in this lifetime as will I.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to GonnaMissDaddy

Thank you so much GonnaMissDaddy !

Welcome to our Community and grateful thanks for your post, it is so heart warming!

Thank you for keeping us all in your thoughts <3

We look forward to reading more of your posts.

Stay safe and well.

Chloe <3

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Lperica10

Yes I have one for my dad. In it I have a few of his old t shirts, favorite hat, cards he gave me- birthday & Christmas, a few things from funeral home- guest book & cards from people, etc., a few mementos, and things he kept, his wallet, and photos. It’s been 4 years now, and I don’t look at it often but I know it’s there. And I also want to show my son when he’s older one day and tell him about his grandfather (that he never got to meet). He’s only 1. When my dad was sick, and only getting worse.. he knew I wanted kids and it was taking a while and just said it’ll happen. How I wish they could know each other! But yes a memory box is a good idea I like it.

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Hi Lperica10 That’s a lovely thought, the memory of your Dad will have so much more meaning when your little one is older, really nice idea.

Lovely to hear from you too!

Chloe <3

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Lperica10 in reply to chloe40

Thank you. How are you?? How is the weather?

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Hi Lperica10

I'm fine thanks for asking.

The weather is dry today but will be very wet for several days, lovely! Mind you there has been snow in many areas higher up, probably @kenster1 has snow ugh, that said we're not going anywhere so snow may cheer us up.

Chloe <3

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