Did you find it easier to talk about your loss

[chloe40]

With a stranger or another member of your family?

Chloe

[Greyone]

I did not have any family members close at hand to talk to and I think many 'friends' were just tolerant if I didn't walk too much. None of them ever reached the rank of intimate.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Greyone]

I'm sorry you didn't have anyone to support you then Greyone that must have made it difficult for you, so many memories to share, but I do hope you haven't suffered too much because of it<3

Chloe

[kenster1 Volunteer]

no matter what difficulties we face in life talking always helps i think it depends on the loss you have more people reaching out when you lose a child than you do if its your parent or maybe even sibbling.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Yes, that could be true @Kenny and I can certainly understand that <3

Chloe <3

[GoGo_JoJo]

I learned many years ago in dealing with depression that the more you say something out loud, the less it hurt; eventually.

I can talk with both strangers and friends easier than I can family. Family members tend to have their own ideas on what I might be feeling, or not.

There are times when it's apparent people don't really want to hear it, but sometimes the cathartic effect of talking overrides what they want (maybe they'll think carefully in future before saying such trite things as "but how are you coping" or "how are you really doing" if they don't really want an answer).

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Hi Jo,

Yes, I agree.

It's amazing how many people ask how you are in ordinary conversation, even if you haven't suffered a loss, they don't have slightest interest really. It's worse when you have a loss and you know they are not genuine, so agree, maybe they will think twice before asking if they don't really care. The new phrase is 'But how are you really' and that gets my goat! Oh dear I have become cynical, message to self: must address this!

Chloe

[GoGo_JoJo in reply to chloe40]

I just take them 100% at their word and give them the full answer! the result is on them!

[Josephine13halffull]

Members of my family

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Josephine13halffull]

Hi Josephine,

Really good that you have had family to talk with and support you, it's such a difficult period in our lives <3

Chloe