thought i spoke too soon

[Bigtonyd]

got up this afternoon and the ex told me to ring the tax credits to remove my from it by the end of the phone call i was on the edge of tears and went hid in a bed room till it passed but my heart still feels like it pounding and i just want too hide. The phone call has made the seperation all that more real.

[Pickle165]

sorry you are going through such a rough time. my siser has gone through a divorce and lost most of her body weight in the process so can only image how hard things are for you. she is being quite harsh towards you which is only making things worse. you really need some family or friends around you right now to lean on, have you got anyone? x

[Bigtonyd in reply to Pickle165]

all my family in london not really got many friends in scotland devoted most of my time with my kids and work never really thought of any thing else. feeling good today done some more work on my new room got a light fitted and the wall is up. just need to decorate it now.

[Kaz12345]

hi Tony, pleased to hear you are feeling a bit better today. It will take time to get over things and Im sure some days will be better than others. I agree with Sam , sounds like you ex is being a bit harsh; she can only ask you to do things, not tell you, and you can choose when to make the calls she wants you to etc. Perhaps you have to put up a few boundaries now, obviously there will be things to sort out and discuss but it has to be at a time convenient to you also and when you are ready. Take care, think about your own needs now and those of the kids.

[Bigtonyd]

Really couldnt face her this morning I got up and just went out. I just know if i stayed i would have started an argument the way i was feeling. so tired now because im on night shift I hardly had any sleep. I'll have to catch up tomorrow.

[Cloudy146]

not much to say that has not already been said. So sorry for you. I have been through a messy divorce and believe me, at the time I thought I would not survive it, but I did. The decisions to move things on, ie tax credits are your decisions not anyone elses to tell you to do things. If your still living together in the same house then I would not rush into anything. Please look after yourself thats not being selfish, you owe it to yourself.

Keep posting, it helps