Post Traumatic stress

[crissy10]

Hi guys....please anyone who has this horrible PTS let me know how to control unbelievable anger...ruining my day day after day worse in evenings??

thanks guys

[ellabella]

Dear Chrissy, I don't have ptsd but have experienced anger in my time. I used to get it when I had a drink mostly. It was anxiety trying to come out. I stopped drinking and learned how to breathe properly and how to relax. I can't express how much this helped me. I pushed it away for years classing it as useless...and thinking " how the hell can breathing help when I am so seriously ill ". IT DOES work if you are 100% committed to it, and it's something you can do on your own and it's free. If you google relaxation tech niches you will find plenty to go at. Maybe someone else will come and give you their answer too, no doubt they will. This is a fabulous site. Have you seen Your GP for referral to help? Hope so love.. x Ella x

[crissy10]

Hi Ella,

Thank you for your response.The breathing does help and practice I think is whats going to help? My biggest hurdle is having no family or friends to talk to. This just makes the situation worse - isolation. I have 2 sons who are grown up and have helped but Im there mum...and theres boundaries.This nightmare starting September 2012 when i left a very controlling man. Only together 5 months and I only lived with him for 12 weeks.I had to get out because he threatened to throw me through a glass window? and he was a terrible silent manipulator. I got out and stayed out.

Now sleeping...still on my sons sofa.Lost everything I owned and It really did break my heart but I am truly over it now but I just cannot understand how I have gone from a happy positive woman to a the person who I am now. ie a shadow of my former self??

My anger (and that comes in bouts) is due to the powerlessness I felt time and time again in a relationship where he wanted control. Why did I try to make it work and leave myself utterly exhausted and how slowly he worked at breaking me down.... I suffered a really horrid depression since and I have taken and still am on 45mg mirtazepine. The anxiety I take beta blockers and they are good...but yes that is my biggest question really How can a crap relationship impact so deeply on me in such a short space of time.

Ps ive been through far far worse??

Chrissy ps hope my story can help others