Hi All. I feel that this is something that affects us all and can be a devastating event in nervous illness. The old "You will never get over this; you will be like it all your life" (which is totally untrue) can be so devastating that it can lower you further into the pit of DESPAIR.
You have all heard of Voodoo. If the witch doctor says you will die at midnight and he sticks pins in your effigy, then you will and, in fact, it has been known. Such is the power of suggestion. In our present state we are very vulnerable to suggestion. I have seen blogs where someone has been told something which is totally untrue but they seem to have fastened on to it and it has made them feel bad. "You are useless". So you feel useless. "You have no moral fibre", so you THINK you lack moral fibre. It is not your fault. It is a result, a symptom, of your illness and your vulnerability to suggestion. Now why do people do this? Sometimes from a sense of superiority. "I am strong; you are weak (another error) therefore I am superior to you. Remember Ronnie Barker, John Cleese etc. "I look up to him"."I look down on him", and so on. I am sure we have all seen it and it is surprising how a comedy situation can carry so much truth. So what to do? As it said in DESIDERATA, "Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit". As far as possible, KEEP AWAY FROM THEM. If they are your friends; and some friends can be your worse enemies, then you may have to tolerate them but keep off the subject of your illness. They do not understand.
Love always. Not self love, that can be destructive, but Unconditional Love. To those who upset you, pass them by. Do not be unkind but do not allow their suggestions to overwhelm you. They sometimes mean well but there is no UNDERSTANDING. Being forced to do things (come on, let's go and see Aunt Mabel) is not good. You must make some effort but if you really feel it would upset you then do not grit your teeth and go. You will come back feeling more drained. Let us learn from our mistakes. Love and blessings to all. jonathan.