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Ten steps backwards...help!!

Hi. I'm having a really low day today, keep bursting into tears, feeling hopeless, constant worrying. Just wondered if anyone had advice about staying positive on these bad days? Feeling like I moved forwards and today's completely thrown me off track. Is this common with anxiety?

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Hiya, all I can say hun is that in my experience its like a roller coaster sometimes! I had a really bad day yesterday and today wasn't so bad! I don't know what tomorrow holds but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

I posted on here yesterday in the midst of my anxiety attack and advice given to me was let the tears flow it may ease some tension and it did for me, and also to have a nice relaxing bath after work which also helped me! And I also made a cuppa got in bed put magic fm on my radio and cried for quite a while.

Hope this helps hun, any questions please ask

I'm sure you'll get a lot more useful replies soon

All the best

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Thankyou for your advice, I've definitely cried lots and it does help. Think a cup of tea and bed is needed :) thankyou for replying

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hello hun, i can only that i know what you are talking about, everything makes me upset nowadays, 2 days ago i was waiting for the bus which took ages and made me so upset that i came back home crying, i just couldn't stop myself, but crying helps sometimes, then i just took a shower and made myself some carrot/spinach juice and herbal tea in the evening, anxiety is crazy but it will not win, this monster will have to disappear one day, anxiety is evil and good and evil cannot mix, anxiety is trying to crack us down, leading us to self destruction, but it will not win, GOOD will always win. it will pass, just take a break and be kind to yourself and it will pass as many many others passed.

hope you will feel better soon

rouri xx

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Hi. Do herbal teas help with your anxiety? It's nice to know I'm not alone, trying to remind myself that 1 bad day isn't going to send me spiraling back over. X

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it helps temporary, like before sleeping so i can have a good night sleep, sometimes i do sometimes i don't. i think it depends how far the anxiety is, if it is women things i need like a gallon of that to do the job :) lol

i ordered now Motherwort tincture i read it is very good for women with hormonal problems/anxiety/stress and mild depression, let see

have a very good night sleep and let me know your news :)

xx

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Thanks for your help :) x

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Hi Gemnewby

Just read your post after having a really bad night with awful anxiety, churning stomach, unable to sleep (I suffer from health anxiety). Just to let you know the thing I've found helps me is writing a thoughts diary (I'm having CBT and this is one of the things I've been asked to do). I write down all my negative thoughts and feelings, emotions, physical sensations, then I write a kind of rationlisation, i.e. alternative and more realistic thoughts, also what I can do/will do to try and help myself feel better. In my case it's going to the gym. It helps me to rationalise my anxiety and I do feel a kind of release once I've done this. I find that writing this as soon as I get up helps me to get my day off to a better start. Sometimes I feel I'm taking one step forward and two or three back, but I do have better days. I also find reading other people's blogs on this site comforting as I know I'm not alone in my suffering, though I'm desperately sorry for everyone who is feeling the same or similar to me. Good luck.

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Hi. gemnewby. Yes, being thrown 'off track' as you put it, is very common in the Anxiety state. It is called Setback'. Just when you think you are better along comes something to knock you down again. Now I am going to say something to which a lot of people will raise their hands in horror. You cannot, at your stage of Anxiety, try to remain positive. You will keep trying to do so and will expend a lot of energy in the process. When you start to come out of this AND YOU WILL, then you can look at things in a more positive way but, for the moment just ACCEPT how you feel, go along with "IT". "IT" can do you no harm if you treat "IT" in the right way, by TOTAL ACCEPTANCE. Seeking ways 'out' at your stage is like chasing a rainbow. There is a pot of gold there but give yourself TIME to find it. It will come to you; you do not have to go looking for it. There is a Chinese story about a man who dashed about the room trying to catch a butterfly. He got very tired .When he sat down and relaxed the butterfly came and sat on his shoulder. By doing that he achieved his aim without expending any energy. Blessings and Good luck. jonathan.

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You should all try a thing called "Binaural Beats", these computer generated sound files are said to massage your brain and produce all sorts of effects, and are excellent for stress/ depression/ anxiety disorders. A binaureal beat is created by playing a different tone in each ear through headphones, and the interference pattern between the slightly differing frequencies creates the illusion of a beat. It's completely safe and scientifically proven - google it!!

If you search the Internet for "binaural beats" you'll quickly find there's a whole industry built on the idea that listening to binaural beats can produce all kinds of desired effects in your brain. It can alter your mood, help you follow a diet or stop smoking, get you pumped up for a competition, calm you down, put you to sleep, enhance your memory, act as an aphrodisiac, cure headaches, and even balance your chakras;-)

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Hi. This seems to be all the go in the USA at the moment. It is not new. It was introduced in 1839 (!) by Heinrich Wilhelm Dove. Of course there is a whole industry built around it. A lot of money can be made from a country that has the highest Anxiety rate in the world. And it has just been discovered? So, after 173 years we have a new 'remedy' on the market. Good! We could do with another to add to the many thousands there are already out there. jonathan.

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Hi thanks for all your advice. Just finding it hard to block the horrible thoughts out. I'll be fine for 10 minutes then I'm off again, worrying and crying x

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Hi. genmewyb. Please understand you are very, very, sensitised and your reactions are typical of the Anxiety State we have all been in or are in.Your feelings are NORMAL IN THE CIRCUMSTANCES. Our heart goes out to you from ALL of us. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We are all pitching for you. Please try and understand what I am going to say even though it may appear to go against the grain of how you feel at the moment. You cannot hope, at this stage, to block unwanted thoughts. The best way to remember is to try and forget. DO NOT FIGHT THE THOUGHTS. They are only thoughts and can do you no harm. I know only too well what you are going through. Hell and back really describes it. But do not DESPAIR. Most of us have been there and here we are. Maybe not 100% but on our way. If only I could give you more help and comfort. It is so difficult to help at this distance but we all do what we can. THE KEY WORD IS ACCEPT, ACCEPT, ACCEPT. Not easy but possible. Go with it there. Cry if you must, it sometimes helps a lot. I have done my share, believe me. Bless you. You are in our thoughts and prayers. jonathan.

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yes it may have been discovered in 1839, but its only cos of the internet age its been recently made "famous" and easily accessible to everyone...thats how i found out about them! ;-)

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Gemnewby.. if you get knocked off your perch..take a deep breath and count to ten. I find Bach Rescue Remedy Spray(buy it from Boots) really helped me to calm down. I dust myself down and do some gardening to switch off for a while or take the dog out for a walk. Tomorrow is another day. I have good and bad days. LizM40.

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Hi LizM40. Yes, the good old Bach Flower Remedies are fine. I did a course on them once and I was surprised at what Dr. Bach went through to prove his remedies worked. Did you know that, as I understand it, he went through 'the mill' himself. Best wishes. jonathan.

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